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[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

With practice and self compassion you can condition yourself to respond in new ways. You can release the core beliefs that you're defective and start to let people in. This will create stronger relationships and make your life much less chaotic.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

3. Re-wire perception: it's exhausting to feel everything is a criticism. Sometimes it can border on paranoia. Remind yourself that not everyone is coming to hurt you, and that we grow by taking in other people's feedback on us.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

2. Create your new response: when you feel that shame response, pause. Start to take deep breaths. Relax your shoulders. Remind yourself you can listen to what someone is saying and not react. Stay open.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

HOW TO WORK THROUGH THIS:

1. Notice to notice your habit reaction: do you become very reactive or shut down when you feel criticized? Notice what you say, how you react, and what happens in your body. Awareness is the first step.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

When I was creating my future self, I knew 3 things:

1. I want to be a person who takes care of their body
2. I want to have boundaries around what I accept
3. I want to trust myself to do difficult things

[Naila @BrownNaila]

"I’m personally a Holocaust survivor as an infant, I barely survived. My grandparents were killed in Aushwitz and most of my extended family were killed. I became a Zionist; this dream of the Jewish people resurrected in their historical homeland and the barbed wire of Aushwitz being replaced by the boundaries of a Jewish state with a powerful army…and then I found out that it wasn’t exactly like that, that in order to make this Jewish dream a reality we had to visit a nightmare on the local population.

There’s no way you could have ever created a Jewish state without oppressing and expelling the local population. Jewish Israeli historians have shown without a doubt that the expulsion of Palestinians was persistent, pervasive, cruel, murderous and with deliberate intent - that’s what’s called the 'Nakba' in Arabic; the 'disaster' or the 'catastrophe'. There’s a law that you cannot deny the Holocaust, but in Israel you’re not allowed to mention the Nakba, even though it’s at the very basis of the foundation of Israel.

I visited the Occupied Territories (West Bank) during the first intifada. I cried every day for two weeks at what I saw; the brutality of the occupation, the petty harassment, the murderousness of it, the cutting down of Palestinian olive groves, the denial of water rights, the humiliations...and this went on, and now it’s much worse than it was then.

It’s the longest ethnic cleansing operation in the 20th and 21st century. I could land in Tel Aviv tomorrow and demand citizenship but my Palestinian friend in Vancouver, who was born in Jerusalem, can’t even visit!

So then you have these miserable people packed into this, horrible…people call it an 'outdoor prison', which is what it is. You don’t have to support Hamas policies to stand up for Palestinian rights, that’s a complete falsity. You think the worse thing you can say about Hamas, multiply it by a thousand times, and it still will not meet the Israeli repression and killing and dispossession of Palestinians.

And 'anybody who criticises Israel is an anti-Semite' is simply an egregious attempt to intimidate good non-Jews who are willing to stand up for what is true."

[Black Therapist 💕 @NicoleLewisLCSW]

1. Dating someone with a huge age gap can be predatory.
2. Everybody can’t go with you on your journey.
3. The club ain’t all that.
4. Struggling just to say you have your own place is not ideal.
4. The American dream ain’t dreaming like they said it would.
5. You’re going to be winging it A LOT.
6. Maturity doesn’t always come with age.
7. It’s your responsibility to heal.
8. Metabolism changes will catch you off guard.
9. Going to bed at the same time every night will change your life. Yes, even on weekends.
10. Credit cards can be used to have a better quality of life.
11. People-pleasing can sometimes help you professionally.
12. You don’t have to repeat the cycle of abuse by spanking children.
13. Having a business/side hustle can help you reduce a lot of expenses.
14. You actually have to talk to people to make friends.
15. You will waste a lot of food if you don’t start eating at home.
16. Most people are emotionally stuck at the age when their trauma began.
17. A pill organizer is necessary.
18. It doesn’t matter that they are your parents, you may have to cut them off if they keep hurting you.
19. Alcohol is not your friend.
20. Turns out that avoiding your problems don’t actually make them go away.

[Prof. Pragya Agarwal @DrPragyaAgarwal]

I really don't think that it is an issue of trying, failing, trying again, asking and making sure. This is not what it was. It was an assumption that westernised names are easier to say and remember. This is a way of othering. If it helps, even my very white husband found this as I did.

[Read Raising Expectations (and Raising Hell) @JPHilllllll]

If you want to know why people have lost faith in capitalism, this might help

[Historic Vids @historyinmemes]

The Indigenous people known as the Huichol first appeared in the highlands of Central Mexico some 15,000 years ago. According to their ancient traditions, both men and women would experience the pain of childbirth. Here's how it was done: the father would position himself on the rafters with a rope tied around his scrotum, while the mother would pull on it while giving birth.

[GREG ISENBERG @gregisenberg]

This is still the best business advice I've ever received:

Think like a farmer

[𝙋𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙮 ✨️ @_Pammy_DS_]

Be so fucking proud of yourself for all the struggles and darkness you’ve dealt with, yet despite it all you still choose to heal and shine.

[𝙋𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙮 ✨️ @_Pammy_DS_]

Gaslighting is when they repeatedly trigger your nervous system and mental health, but blame when you address their toxic behaviour – they never accept accountability or discuss their disrespect.

[𝙋𝙖𝙢𝙢𝙮 ✨️ @_Pammy_DS_]

I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser into someone with more boundaries it can feel so weird – it's hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re actually just respecting your own feelings, because you’re so used to putting other people's feelings first.

[🫶🏾 @theericklouis]

For the “I was born black, you weren’t born gay” cis het crowd

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

An emotionally immature partner will shut you down.

To avoid their temper or high reactivity, you don’t say anything.

You walk on eggshells betraying yourself in the process.

A relationship that silences you is a form of emotional abuse.

Choose yourself.

[Professor Michael Flood @MichaelGLFlood]

Sex and housework: In heterosexual couples with children, when women do more of the household labour than men, they have lower sexual desire, for two reasons: 1) they are more likely to see their partners as dependent on them, and 2) they see the division of labour as unfair
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[James Rehwald @JamesRehwald]

A capitalist visited my workplace to teach us a valuable lesson

[gianna 🇨🇭 @sillyisabella]

Barbie is actually a good example of a society men want vs what women want. men’s idea of an ideal society is domination and subjugation of women. in women’s ideal barbie world men just don’t matter, and women have no interest in dominating them. they’re just there.

[Joseph Fasano @Joseph_Fasano_]

What line of poetry would you send someone you *really* love?