no this is legitimately a way to protect yourself. there is a reason abusers want you isolated. you need good family (or just good friends) first so you aren't getting into relationships out of loneliness or desperation.
The world right now just feels like a test of how desperate you are 🤣 job markets, friendships, love… everything, “are you willing to tolerate anything to maintain this?”
eu quando me dou conta de que nada nunca será como antes, e que por mais que eu tente voltar, a satisfação do início é irrecuperável e tudo que eu tenho agora é apego a fantasia irreal e floreada do que um dia achei que existiu
I fear the hottest relationship dynamic is when a woman acts like a chaotic little creature and the man finds it genuinely hilarious instead of spiritually exhausting. Like, he’s not trying to tame her he’s just entertained, deeply fond, and occasionally wondering what the hell is going on 😭
Me when love is embarassing merely because of ego and it wouldnt be embarassing if you realized that the purpose of love AND love itself cannot intrinsically prioritize the ego. All the stupid shit you've done for love is beautiful. It was an act of selflessnes.
The best way to honour someone who did a lot for you but regressed into someone you can no longer respect, is to remember the best version of them and be thankful for what they did for you. Even if they ultimately failed you, they gave you a great gift as proof of their love.