@nimc_ng There is error in my date of birth on my NIN that I need to correct and have move around almost all your offices in Ondo and nothing is being done about it, they keep saying it will be done only in Abuja... please how do I go about this, is really frustrating.
As a husband, expecting your wife to have a perfect home since she is in the house all day is like your wife expecting you to be a millionaire since you are at work all day. Look, get rid of your expectations of other people and accept their reality. Expectations only work when you have them for yourself. Why? Because God did not create other people to live up to your expectations.
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"He might even be cheating more than her"
And that's okay.
Cheating men are to their women, what poor women are to their men.
That is to say, just as a woman's low financial status is not a deal breaker for her man, that is how a man's infidelity is not a critical quality for a woman.
In third world countries like ours where survival is hard, women prioritise provision over faithfulness. Whilst men filter for fidelity.
This is mainly why women are considerably more likely to continue relationships with cheating men whilst men rarely get back with unfaithful women.
Ignore what they say. Watch what they do.
You see, romantic partnerships are in a fundamental sense, an exchange: a man provides for a woman and she in return, grants him EXCLUSIVE access to her body.
Her provision like his fidelity, are dispensable qualities.
Therefore she vitiates the partnership when she gives her body to other men and he does the same, when he fails to provide and protect her.
It is for this reason "broke men don't deserve no pvssy" is a popular expression which perfectly captures the quintessence of female mating strategy.
Women want men who can provide and men want women who are faithful. This is the nature of the exchange. Everything else is noise.
And considering the ability to provide is a considerably harder responsibility to discharge, men already get the short end of the stick.
And on that account, it is insulting for a man to be cheated on by a woman he's providing for as he already offers more utility than her, yet she goes ahead to debase the meagre value she brings by sleeping with other men. And as a result, it is safe to assume men who continue with such women must hate themselves.
Unfaithfulness is a male privilege as much as dependence is a female one. Poor women want rich men and cheating men want faithful women. It cancels out and everybody should be happy – but no. Weak men have allowed greedy women arm-twist them into being faithful and at the same time providing.
Man's core obligations have been increased from just providing and protecting, to also being faithful. Whilst woman's remains the same: fidelity –– and to rub salt into wound, most of them, are not even faithful.
Fraud does not get more criminal than this.
As a slight corollary, this is not to say that men who choose to be faithful—either from religious or other conviction, are doing it wrong. The point here is no man should allow any one pressure or guilt trip him into fidelity.
Men do not have to be faithful in much the same woman do not have to provide. Sure, a man's fidelity, like a woman's provision, is a nicety to have but it is not fundamental.
Female hypergamy is the siamese twin of male polygamy. You cannot have, promote, or enable one without the other.