We grew up around younger women. We saw how they told us we were not on their level.
They were partying with older men, getting into clubs for free, sitting in VIP sections, having no jobs but wearing expensive clothes, hair and the latest phones, with their bills being paid.
They had so many older men they could call for money and gifts, and we saw cars coming to pick these women up at universities every Friday night. They
call us broke for not having a car and money at 22 years old even thought they don’t have a car.
Meanwhile, we were hustling and focused on making money. We finally made it in our late 30s, and now you want men to go date a woman who is 40 because she is “mature”? Mature in what? Multiple dicks , trauma, heartbreak, and high body counts? No.
Let these men go enjoy what you enjoyed at a young age. What happened to those men you were partying with? Why didn’t they marry you?
If you didn’t struggle and build with these men in their 20s, you have no fuckin right to tell them to marry older women in their 30s and 40s. We don’t want no retired menopausal baddie.
Yall can go to hell.
The easiest way to get better results in the dating market is to simply adopt the same philosophies the average Nigerian woman adopts.
- Guard your resources seriously!
- View your penis like a goldmine!
- View everything she does as the barest minimum!
- Be rude to her if she’s poorer than you!
Simply mirror women’s behaviour back to them.
I don’t believe anyone can be “collected” with food, money etc you left, you weren’t “collected”.
That said, whenever I see babes talk about this scenario, they paint it like the girls throw food ONLY at the men & the men just fall yakata, nothing else just food😂
You’ll see a handsome, financially stable man with multiple dating options and think he threw away his relationship cos of hot jollof or egusi?😂 Not sex, attention, respect, affection, liking her more, feeling better being with her etc, just food.
A friend of mine in Switzerland 🇨🇭, Luca, once told me something that stayed with me.
He liked a lady in Zurich.
They used to talk almost every day. Nothing too serious but you know when communication has started carrying small hope.
One evening, he asked her if they could go out properly, not just random coffee after work.
She laughed and said:
“Luca, you are too reserved for me. I like men who are more spontaneous.”
He didn’t argue.
He just said okay.
The painful part was that he actually believed that was the problem.
So he started questioning himself.
Maybe I am too calm.
Maybe I don’t talk enough.
Maybe I should be more outgoing.
Maybe I should start doing too much just to look interesting.
A few months later, he saw her in Lausanne with another guy.
The guy was quieter than him.
This man barely spoke throughout the dinner. He sat there, nodded, smiled small and allowed her to do most of the talking.
The same silence she called “too reserved” in Luca had suddenly become “peaceful” in another man.
That day, Luca understood life.
Sometimes, people are not rejecting the attitude.
They are rejecting the person.
When they like you, your silence is maturity.
When they don’t like you, your silence is boredom.
When they like you, your simplicity is humility.
When they don’t like you, your simplicity is lack of ambition.
When they like you, your busy schedule means you are focused.
When they don’t like you, it means you don’t have time for them.
This is why you should not rebuild your entire personality because one person did not choose you.
Sometimes, nothing is wrong with you.
You are just not the person they want.
And that is okay.
Accept it with dignity and move.