“A wife should never pay house rent, a woman should never split the rent bills with her husband, that's the barest minimum a husband should provide”
Solomon Buchi
To Whoever Cares to Read...
I have counseled lots of singles and married couples on This app and on whatsapp. this blocking thing is common among lots of newly weds and those in a serious relationship. I really do not understand the concept of blocking your partner just because you both had quarreled few times. It is still communication with the right intention that will solve the issue. What i don't and will never comprehend is when you now bring it on the internet. It pains me the reader than you the poster.
I know i am h@ted on this app for speaking uncomfortable truth, however, I am not a Perfect Wife, neither am I a perfect human. I have my own flaws, I make mistakes, but there's one thing I will never do, is humiliate my husband on the internet for vain attention or cruise or whatever the case may be. Whatever misunderstanding we had and settled cannot find its way on this app.
I've seen my parent quarrel, but I have never seen my mum gossip her husband to anybody not even her close friend. (This were times when there was no internet). I learnt this act from my mum. You can go through my TL you will never spot me talk down against my husband. Netheir does he bring me up as a case study to his friends.
All I'm saying in essence is mind what you put here. You are a direct reflection of your partner. When you misbehave online, it rubs up on your partner especially if your partner is a public figure, people will call him a weak man because of the things you post.
Your marriage is personal. How you chose to tolerate and handle each other is at your call. Your marriage is peculiar to you. However, your marriage is not a public thing for cruise cos it affects that partner more that it affects you the poster.
Thanks for reading 📚 📖 this far.
Interviewer: How much does your husband have to make to take care of a family of 5?
Her: We make over $200k combined.
Interviewer: So you split the bills on your household?
Her: Yeah. Everything is joint.
They have 3 kids and she is not using them as an excuse to be financially irresponsible to the home. Spotting family values is not rocket science
Listen to these old fools about marriage at your own risk.
You are better off taking marital advice from a goat than from the average Nigerian married man.
They have zero self respect and personal standards for themselves. Very patetik clowns.
"Forget about body count. Body count doesn't always count. Sometimes it's better to marry a lady who has gone into the world and experienced life than to marry one who hasn't. Those you think are less ev!l, what they are doing behind the scenes will shøck you."
— Canada-based Nigerian doctor, Zo, reveals the advice he recently gave to his abroad-based male friend after the friend planned to call off his intended marriage upon hearing that the lady slept with two other men he knows in Nigeria.
I hate this nonsense of besmirching the character of women that chose to be chaste or virgins, just to promote the assumed character worthiness of those that sleep around.
Yes, prior sexual experience does not make you automatically a bad person unworthy of marriage. But the forced claim that chaste women will do worse or are doing worse, is a trait of foolish people. Does sexual experience impose character worthiness on people?
Dr. Zo is a foolish person and he is definitely not a good friend to the person seeking advice from him. Marital advice that is focused on just getting the person married rather than the person marrying right, is a foolish one.
"I still had this anger that I can't control"
But you never angered your boss at work, or your pastor, or the bus conductors & touts at a motor park. It's your own husband, the man that married you and put a roof over your head that enjoys this bad side of you. Wow! 😂
We don't need to push the limits of innovation on this end of our earth jor.
We have more pressing conversations of national importance.
"Is it gele or Ichafu?"
It is painful when people who ought to know better are deliberately bent on keeping the masses in poverty and retrogression. You are educated up to Masters degree and live in developed society, you should know and do better. Your education and exposure is supposed to reflect in your thought process.
If you live abroad, it means you've been exposed to better. You know what a working system looks like. You know that quality education should be made compulsory and free to kids. You know that minimum wage should should get you your basic needs - including rent, clothing and feeding. You cannot be thousands of miles across the ocean pushing for policies that drives us deeper in poverty. Are you mad?
I've talked a lot about my life experiences and I'll restate. I went to secondary school with the privileged, and that exposure made me see what a good life was and made me want better for kids that grew up in the environment I grew up in, and for all disprivileged kids in the country. I went to UNIBEN and saw another side to life and realized comparatively that many Nigerian kids have their childhood and youth stolen from them through deliberate systemic poverty. It is not right! Having lived abroad, I lived the experience of a working system and wept for an entire generation of Nigerian youth that has been robbed of dignity of decent living. There is nothing special about the West. If they can do it, we can do it too. The Asians have done it. Other African countries have left us behind. The Nigerian people have to enjoy a decent life and a quality standard of living without having to leave home. We all deserve a better life at home.
As bad as South Africans are, they are evil to foreigners. You Nigerians are evil to your own people. How do you explain that you sit abroad supporting and promoting policies at home that keeps people in abject poverty and sink them further into a hole their generation will not be able to recover from. You are raising your kids to compete globally and take their seat at the tables of this world where countries you reside in are giving free education, preparing their kids for the world of tomorrow in Tech and AI, empowering their kids in STEM, giving millions of dollars in grabt for innovations. You want other people's kids to use your lunch money to start frying akara in 2026. Is that the plan you have for your own kids? The god you serve and the one you don't serve, will strike you mad.
If you are at home supporting this madness, you are not exempted because the whole point of your education is to know how to think. So fvcking think! Dem use poverty swear for you?
WILL HAVING A COLD BATH AFTER SEXUAL INTERCOURSE/INTIMACY KILL YOU?👀.
THE BALANCED TRUTH.
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Dear X users and TikTok users,
There is something fascinating about the way fear travels on the internet. It arrives suddenly, loudly, and with the confidence of a town crier who has mistaken gossip for truth. And so a reel appears, and it says something dramatic: that if you take a cold shower after intimacy, you could die. And people watch it, and people share it, and people begin to look at their bathroom taps with suspicion.
But medicine, you see, is not a loud profession. Medicine prefers a slower voice. Medicine asks us to pause, and to breathe, and to remember that the human body is not a fragile thing waiting for disaster. Because intimacy itself is a kind of quiet exercise. The heart begins to beat faster, and the blood vessels open like morning flowers, and the breathing becomes deeper, and the skin grows warm with the small, honest labour of pleasure. The body, in that moment, is alive in the way bodies were always designed to be. And then the moment ends.
And the body begins its graceful return to calm.
Now imagine interrupting that gentle descent with a sudden rush of very cold water. The body startles. Blood vessels tighten quickly. The heart adjusts abruptly. Doctors call this a cold shock response, and it is the same thing that can happen when someone jumps suddenly into icy water after exercise.
For most healthy people, nothing dramatic follows. The body adapts. It always has. Millions of people around the world step into showers after intimacy, and the world does not suddenly lose them. But medicine also believes in honesty. And honesty says that sudden cold exposure can be stressful for certain people. Someone with underlying heart disease. Someone with poorly controlled high blood pressure. Someone whose heart rhythm already walks a delicate line. For them, extreme cold can create cardiovascular strain.
Yet even here, the story is not one of https://t.co/v0R3YGJOYg is simply a story of gentleness.
Allow the body a few minutes to settle. Drink some water. Let the heartbeat slow from the rhythm of closeness back to the quiet rhythm of rest. And if you choose to shower, choose water that is warm or lukewarm, water that welcomes the body rather than startling it. Because the body, like many good things in life, prefers kindness over shock.
Social media loves fear because fear spreads quickly. But medicine prefers truth, and truth spreads more slowly, like a careful conversation between people who trust each other. And the truth is this: intimacy followed by a cold shower is not a death sentence.
It is simply a moment in which the body would rather be treated with patience. And perhaps that is the small lesson here. That after closeness, after warmth, after the quiet poetry of two bodies meeting, the human body asks for only one thing. Not panic. Just a gentle return to normal.
NO, IT IS ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE TO GET PREGNANT IN THE SWIMMING POOL WHERE A GUY EJACULATED.
YES. THE SPERM CELLS ARE GREAT SWIMMERS, BUT NOT OUTSIDE THE BODY.
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I will answer you as one who has learned that fear travels faster than facts, and that pregnancy, in the public imagination, is often treated like a curse that jumps from surface to surface, and from rumor to rumor.
Gemini, no, you cannot get pregnant from swimming in a pool that has semen in it, and not from a public pool, and not from a bathtub, and not from seawater, and not even from a very unfortunate jacuzzi. Pregnancy does not happen by accident in water. It is not a splash, and it is not a whisper, and it is not a surprise that slips through chlorinated waves.
Both RCOG and ACOG agree, and science nods in the same direction: pregnancy requires intention, and timing, and proximity. Sperm must be placed inside the vagina, usually through penetrative vaginal sex, and it must happen around ovulation, and it must happen in a way that allows sperm to pass through the cervix and meet an egg. This meeting is not casual. It is not a coincidence. It is a carefully choreographed biological event.
Now let us talk about sperm, gently, because they are often granted powers they do not possess. Sperm are fragile little cells, and they survive best in the warm, secret corridors of the vagina and cervix. In water, they weaken. Add chlorine, soap, heat, or even just the cruelty of dilution, and they lose their power quickly. A swimming pool is not a womb. It is not even friendly territory. It is wide and cold and disinfected, and it does not conspire with biology.
For pregnancy to happen from what people call “pool semen,” sperm would have to survive chlorine and water, and swim against gravity, and enter the vagina in large enough numbers, and travel through the cervix, and reach an egg. This is not romance. This is fantasy biology. It belongs in a myth, not in medicine.
RCOG and ACOG are clear: casual contact with semen on skin, on clothing, on toilet seats, or in water does not cause pregnancy. Pregnancy requires direct vaginal exposure to semen. Anything else is a story told in fear, and repeated in shame. And when you hear stories like this, hear them kindly, but do not let them frighten you. Many pregnancy myths are born from silence, and from poor sex education, and from the fear of being judged, and from the need to explain an unexpected pregnancy without naming the real cause. This is why we must speak softly, and not mockingly, because knowledge should arrive like a hand on the shoulder, not like a slap.
You are safe from pregnancy in a pool. You are safe from pregnancy in https://t.co/kikDPcIbTc are safe from pregnancy unless semen enters your vagina DIRECTLY...FROM DIRECT THRUSTS.
And if anyone ever tries to frighten you with “water pregnancy,” remember this: The womb is not a sponge. Sperm are not magic.
And science is kinder than fear.
If you ever have doubts about pregnancy, or contraception, or your body, ask a doctor, not TikTok, and not friends, and not whispers in changing rooms. Your curiosity is healthy. Your question is intelligent. And your body deserves facts, not fear.