Jerry: She has a penis?
George: She had a PENIS, Jerry!
Elaine: So what if she had a penis?
(Kramer enters)
Elaine: Kramer, would you ever date a girl with a penis?
Kramer: I only date girls with penises
George: Really? Why?
Kramer: She knows her way around the equipment
Just because a woman is nice to you or you did something for her doesn’t mean she owes you anything. That’s called consent. Not obligation. Hope that helps.
The thing is, if you're not depicting "the outcast" as being a pariah for unfair reasons (being fat, autistic, poor, non-white, queer, mentally ill, etc) then it just comes off like they're an outcast because they're an asshole who thinks they're better than everyone else