Ikom Boy 🫂

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[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

Dear God, show us mercy and bless all that touches this post…🙏

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

My neighbor called me Chairman. My wife called him a good neighbor. They were both right, just not in the way I thought.

On my way to work every morning, he greeted me like I was his personal miracle.

"Chairman! How far?"
"Boss man!"

My wife used to laugh. "Your neighbor likes you."

I didn't suspect anything — the man was married. We watched football together. That's how comfortable I was.

Then one Saturday, NEPA took light at midnight.

Heat sat on everything.

My wife said she wanted air. I stayed inside pressing phone. Twenty minutes passed and I followed.

I opened the door and heard whispering near the staircase. I froze, thought it was thieves...until I recognized her voice.

"You know he trusts you too much."

My chest didn't just tighten. It locked.

Then my neighbor laughed. Low. Easy. Like a man who had done this before.

"That's why this thing sweet pass."

I stood in the darkness like an abandoned generator. Didn't move. Couldn't.

The worst part wasn't what I heard. It was that they didn't panic when they saw me.

My wife saw me first. Called my name. Shocked. Like I was the one who had wandered somewhere strange.

Then this man, this Chairman-How-Far-Boss-Man, looked me in the eye and said,

"Bro, calm down. It's not what you think."

Till today, I am still waiting for someone to explain what two married people are doing behind a staircase at 12:47am that I was supposed to think. 😭

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi Bro that's gold. Nothing beats when she opens up like that after years together.

Communication wins again!

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi True. Independence means choosing each other, not needing each other to survive.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

Being an independent woman doesn’t mean you don’t need a man.

It just means you’re not with him because of survival.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi @c_naturalman Questioning isn't a lack of faith, it's how we pursue truth.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

One thing religion did was make some people fear questioning things.

You raise a concern, and the answer is always "just have faith."

My brother, I'm trying, but confusion is also available.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi The long-term deception after years of bonding makes it especially cruel.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

This morning my street woke up to premium breakfast 💔

This woman told her husband during small argument yesterday, that he is not the father of their 2nd child.

At first we thought she was just angry.
Because how?

She carried the pregnancy in his house. Gave birth to the child there. Even had another child after that one. 3 kids altogether. All she stayed with him

Only for one man to show up this morning…

She pointed at him confidently saying, “Na him be the father.”

Omo the husband nearly collapse.
The painful part be say the other man no even deny am 😭

At this point, I don’t even understand relationships again. These children matter should not become weapon for revenge or emotional games.

Some men are raising children they only “assumed” were theirs. Some women too are carrying secrets that can destroy homes overnight.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi True. Office life is 20% tasks and 80% navigating adult kindergarten drama.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

On my first day at the office, I thought the hardest part of the job would be the actual work.

I was wrong.

By 9am, two coworkers were already fighting over who finished the milk in the staff fridge.

At 10am, the manager sent "Good morning team ❤️" to the group chat… then spent the next hour shouting at everybody like we owed him rent.

By noon, one lady was crying in the restroom because her younger coworker replied "Noted." with attitude.

That was the day I realized office work is only 30% actual work.

The remaining 70% is managing adult tantrums with WiFi connection.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

One thing nobody tells you about adulthood is that you will meet people who are genuinely kind…

Then later discover they are only kind to people they don’t compete with.

A lot of good people are only untested.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi Bro you turned flight of passion into full-time nursing shift 😂

You paid the 'experience fee' in full.
Respect for showing up tho.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

I met her last year on Facebook, nothing serious at first,

just late-night talks, jokes, voice notes that stretched longer than they should.

Then it started feeling like something.

So when she got to Uyo for NYSC, something in me decided I had to see her. Properly.

I booked the flight from Abuja, to and fro, checked into a ₦30k hotel like I was in a movie I couldn't afford, and told myself,

"This is how men show intention."

Five days. All planned. All for her.

The day I landed, she called.

Her voice was weak.

"I'm not feeling well…"

At first I thought it was a small thing. Maybe she'd rest and we'd still link up later.

But it got worse.

Everything started sounding like my village people were following me.

Instead of clubbing, going to the beach and soft life, I became her personal nurse, buying drugs, boiling water, checking temperature, running errands like I had suddenly changed career.

By day three, I knew the road to her house better than my hotel bed.

By the time she started feeling better, my return date was already close.

The hotel room I booked for romance had turned into a waiting room for recovery.

When I flew back to Abuja, I didn't feel like I traveled for love.

I felt like I traveled for responsibility I didn't sign up for.

Three months later, we stopped talking.

No dramatic ending. Just silence.

The kind that makes you realize some journeys are not return on investment, they are just experience fees.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi Haha, plot twist of the year!
Glad she finally said it, communication wins again.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi “Hostage situation” killed me 😭😭
At that point, you’re not debating anymore, you’re babysitting confusion.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

Another time I knew I was arguing with an idiot was the moment she said, "Bro, the sun isn't hot. It's just bright."

At first, I thought she was joking. So I laughed.

She didn't.

I mentioned heat, science, sunburns, common sense.

This girl looked me dead in the eye and said, "If the sun is hot, why is space cold?"

That's when I realized this wasn't an argument anymore.

It was a hostage situation.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi That's a powerful reminder.

Kindness costs nothing but can mean everything.

[Sui Generis @donrejubi]

See, this life, a lot of people are fighting silent battles just to survive.

And honestly, if the only thing you can offer someone is kindness through your words or other means, trust me, it can go a very long way.

This morning, I found myself reflecting on my life, especially my days in Calabar, when survival was the only thing that mattered.

Back then, every single day was about finding a way to make ends meet.

I started remembering some of the things I did just to earn money, and one particular hustle still feels so surreal whenever I think about it.

I remember getting paid to be one of the “MEN IN SUIT” at a wedding where I didn’t know a single person.

Imagine that. Just dressing up, showing up, smiling, and blending in like family. 😂

But at that point in my life, survival meant doing anything legitimate to make money, and honestly, I did it with joy and pride. Because back then, ₦10,000 was good money for me. Very good money.

And funny enough, that’s just one of the many things I have done just to survive.

Truth is, a lot of people you see walking around today have stories they can’t even tell.

Many have done unimaginable things just to stay afloat, feed themselves, or keep hope alive.

For some people, the struggle eventually pays off. For others, the journey is still ongoing and might sadly never pay.

So if you can’t help someone today, please just be kind to them in your own little way.

A kind word, a little respect, a little patience, you never really know what someone is going through behind closed doors.

And to everyone still struggling and trying to survive, please don’t give up. Your payday will surely come someday. Keep pushing.

One day, your story will make sense, and all these difficult moments will become part of your testimony.

[Ikom Boy 🫂 @Ikom_Boy]

@donrejubi The 'our house' detail is ice cold. Dude denied it with zero hesitation, that’s pro-level gaslighting