I once heard a story... About a man who broke a window in a woman's house. He apologised. So she forgave him. And he assumed that meant the window wasn't broken anymore. But every night... Cold air came through the crack. Rain found its way inside. She could still feel the damage, even when nobody else could see it. So eventually she said... 'We need to fix the window.' And he looked confused. 'But I already said sorry. She tried to explain... 'I know. But saying sorry didn't replace the glass. And somehow, he became frustrated with her. 'Why are we still talking about this?' 'Why can't things just go back to normal?' 'I thought you forgave me.' And slowly, the broken window became less important than her reaction to being cold. So she started pretending she wasn't. She stopped mentioning the draught. Cleaned up the rain herself. Put another blanket around her shoulders and called it forgiveness. Until one day... She realised something. He didn't actually want forgiveness. He wanted access to the house without having to repair what he damaged inside it. And sometimes this is what happens in relationships... Someone hurts you, then becomes uncomfortable when the hurt changes you. They want the old closeness. The old trust. The old version of you. Without doing the work that would make those things feel safe again. But trust doesn't return because someone says... 'Can't we just move on?' Forgiveness isn't repair. An apology isn't changed behaviour.
And accountability isn't saying sorry, it's caring enough about the damage to help rebuild what was broken. Because you can forgive someone and still notice the window is broken. You can love someone and still need them to repair what they damaged. And sometimes... The reason things can't 'go back to normal' is because normal was where you kept getting hurt.
I found another beautiful scripture today 🥹
But me, I’m not giving up. I’m sticking around to see what God will do. I’m waiting on God to make things right.
- Micah 7:7
There are things that should occur naturally to a woman.. you serve the food, you clear the table and do dishes and make sure the kitchen and house in general are constantly clean and organized.
There are things that should occur naturally to a man.. you provide for your family without complaining, you plan for your family, you protect your family, you make sure your woman never lacks.
Marriage and relationships should actually be that simple.
You find a man or woman complaining against their ‘gender roles,’ you run for your life because you’re about to ‘breast feed’ a snake
God, can I be honest with You?
I don’t understand, I honestly don’t understand why some things are taking this long. I don’t understand why You’ve allowed certain things to happen. I don’t understand what You’re preparing me for.
Sometimes I’m tired of being strong.
Sometimes I’m tired of crying too much.
Sometimes I just want to know that everything will be okay.
Sometimes, I don’t even know if I’m praying for the right things anymore.
But in all, I know You’re still God
I know You haven’t forgotten me.
And even though I don’t understand this season, i don’t want to go through it without You.
I’m scared, but I’m here, Father. Please hold me together.
my therapist advised, "learn to calm your own storm instead of venting to others. it may feel therapeutic to let it all out, but you reinforce negative thoughts. it’s no one’s job but yours to pull yourself out of your problems. journal, meditate, exercise,and release." felt that
one of the ugliest truths about life is that every choice kills another version of your life.
get married, and you’ll eventually miss the freedom you had alone. stay single, and there will be nights when you wonder what it would’ve been like to build a life with someone. have children, and you’ll miss parts of the life you had before them. don’t have children, and you may spend years wondering about the family you never created.
there is no perfect path and there is no decision that leaves you with everything.
the life you didn’t choose will always look better from a distance because you never had to pay its price.
stop searching for a choice you won’t regret , it doesn’t exist. choose your life, accept what it costs, and live with the consequences. buena suerte 👍
Normalize being a boring Christian. Sleep early. Wake before the sun. Open your Bible to understand it. Pray before you touch your phone. Hit the gym. Eat clean. Cut the people who pull you away from God. Build in silence. Sit alone with Him. Stillness looks boring to people addicted to noise. That's the whole point. Your life doesn't have to be loud to be blessed. Sometimes the real flex is disappearing for a while. Becoming the man nobody can shake.
So, RwandAir uses Ugandan influencers, but Uganda Airlines still hasn't figured out the playbook.
Anyway... my question is: What aren't Solo and Janie telling us? 👀