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"Inna ma'al usri yusra" After hardship, ease is promised. Alhamdulillah.
Dear Husbands,
My Muslim brothers.
This is one topic a lot of people are afraid to discuss, for the fear of being tagged names or called names. But there are people like me that do not actually care what you call them, so I will speak about it.
If you happen to speak to women today, wives I mean, from relatives to acquaintances, sometimes very close relatives or even far ones, you will understand the extent of deviation we face today on the verse:
Surah An-Nisa (4:19):
"...And live with them (your wives) in kindness. For if you dislike them - perhaps you dislike something, and Allah makes therein much good."
Today, our society is suffering from grave neglect to the rights of wives, ignoring the importance of treating women, particularly wives, with kindness, respect, and compassion as commanded by Allรฃh SubhanaHu wa Ta'ala.
Do we actually know the place of respecting the rights of our wives and according them their place in Islam?
In Sahih al-Bukhari (5185) and Sahih Muslim (1218):
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
โFear Allah concerning women, for you have taken them on the security of Allah, and sexual relations with them have been made lawful to you by the words of Allah. You have rights over your wives, and they have rights over youโฆโ
Every injunction of Islam emphasizes the importance of maintaining a harmonious marital relationship through and understanding and tolerance.
Today, some of us have become monsters to their wives. By Allรฃh, some would wish their spouses don't return home when they travel. Some are only staying because they can't afford to live on their own, or they can't return to their parents houses because they probably have none of the parent alive. This on its own is a recipe for disaster and unacceptable.
Remember, no woman is being forced on you. You saw her, went to her parent and asked for her hand in marriage. Then they agree to hand over her love, responsibilities, care, emotional support and everything to you. And by the marriage contract yiu accepted it. Do you think Allรฃh will not punish you for neglecting such rights?
If it is a matter of conflict or dissatisfaction, as thr man, there is always a way to resolve it. The way you dislike somethings about her, trust me there are things she doesn't like about you. The way you feel she is getting aged & may be not as attractive as she used to be, the same way you're aging and you're not as attractive as she would want you to be. In such situations, Islam encourages patience and optimism. Even if a husband dislikes certain traits in his wife, there may be hidden virtues or blessings that Allah has placed in her.
Women had limited rights in pre-Islamic Arabia. Islam came to elevate their status, protect their rights, and ensure that they were treated with dignity and care. The message of kindness and patience in marriage remains timeless and is a foundational principle for healthy relationships.
Fear Allรฃh in the affairs of your wives. Give them their rights. Treat them kindly with love and compassion. Do not abstain from them in bed. Do not treat them any level lower than you. Put yourselves in their shoes. If she is the one that speaks to you in that manner you speak to her, would you like it? If she's the one that treats you the way you treat her, would you accept it?
Let us fear Allรฃh in their affairs. Let us tell ourselves the bitter truth.
~Hidima, PhD.
The longer I go without something, the more Iโm okay with never having it again. And once I detach from someone or something completely, reconnection with me becomes impossible because I know what it took for me to finally let go. Once Iโm done, Iโm done.