High performers almost always want someone who’s also a high performer. Social media sold a fantasy that a rich man will fund your lifestyle while expecting little in return. That’s why so many are shocked by his comments. He’s not saying homemaking has no value. He’s saying people operating at a certain level want someone who’s just as driven & ambitious.
I’m in transition again in my life. I have done this many times and they are all a bit painful as a person goes from being successful & certain about what you’re doing and having to learn again.
@BlessedGirl001 The loneliest tears are the ones you wipe in secret.
No one to call. No one to tell. Just you, the ceiling, and the weight you can't share.
That's a man's silent war. Not weak. Just tired. And still fighting.
life hacks every man should learn and do at least once a year
1. wake up early on a saturday and take yourself out for breakfast. dress clean, smell good, go somewhere calm and order a proper meal. no rush, no pressure. just sit, eat slowly and enjoy the moment. take a few selfies too even if you usually don’t.
2. book a decent hotel room in your city for one night. nothing too expensive, just comfortable. carry a small bag like you’re escaping life for a bit. order food, take a long shower, put your phone away for some time and rest properly. learn that peace is the luxury.
3. take yourself to the cinema alone. buy popcorn. pick the exact seat you actually want. think deeply, laugh hard, cry if you need to, feel whatever you feel, no one talking to you. just you and the movie.
4. go to a café on a weekday, order a drink and a small pastry. sit by the window and face your phone down for a bit. watch people going to work, students rushing, cars passing, birds singing, children playing, just life moving in that pace.
5. take yourself somewhere peaceful outdoors. maybe a park, a quiet road, a waterfront or anywhere with fresh air. walk slowly with music in your ears or just enjoy the silence. clear your head a little.
6. learn to genuinely enjoy your own company, brother. if you can be happy alone, you become harder to break, harder to pressure and harder to control.
7. enjoy yourself man. come on, you need it, you deserve it.
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One of the craziest things about growing older is watching the people around you lose that spark in their eyes. We used to talk about how fly our house would be, the cars we were gonna collect, our daily drivers, the old schools, the watches, the vacations we would go on, the fly pics in other countries to show our sons how to really live life, buying real estate in other countries, the stories we would keep to ourselves because some parties got too wild, floor seats at the games, being wealthy random people with the best seats, the wedding, spoiling our wives, letting them drive our fly cars to school, all the big dreaming we did as young’ns… and now it’s all out the window.
Now it’s just: “Did you see the highlights from last night’s game?” “Where the hoes at?” “Look at the reels I sent you.” “Get on the game.” Drinks in the bar, which clubs are dope, etc
No more schemes about getting rich and doing fly shit and keeping our freedom. No more talks about how we would be better and more calculated than the people who came before us. No more mispronouncing countries we never heard of but were for sure gonna get to somehow. No more dreams. No more ambition. Just slowly rotting away watching TikToks and sports all day.
Even worse is when these people start criticizing the ones who actually stuck to the plan. You used to want success like him, cars like him. He just stayed consistent, and you became a critic. Now the only thing we can talk about is.. Where the hoes at?