At some point during your PhD, things going wrong stop surprising you.
Here is what I learned from constantly dealing with things going sideways:
1. Stop taking every setback as a personal failure.
2. Build flexibility into every plan.
3. Learn to recover faster.
There is a special kind of exhaustion that comes from trying to publish the same paper for too long.
If you are in that right now, here is what helped me:
1. Separate the paper from your identity.
2. Take recovery time seriously.
3. Keep a practical next step ready.
sorry to break it to you but you literally have to face your fears and slaughter them. otherwise you will live a small life that you do not want. you literally have to view your biggest fears and attack them head on. you have to fall into the abyss to find your way out. the easy path does not exist. there is no get out of jail free card. you have to allow yourself to die a spiritual death over and over again in order to reinvent yourself into the person you are actually supposed to be. and you have to be painfully honest with yourself and the people around you. it’s horrible but it’s truly the only way.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
Sorry, Melissa. I think I may have misread your original point.
I agree that the key question is whether enough wealthy families remain willing to pay these prices. But my baseline prediction is that, if global wealth continues to grow, demand for elite education will continue to grow as well. Education at top institutions is largely a superior good, and demand increasingly comes from a global market, not just from U.S. families.
The more interesting question is on the supply side. Can the supply of elite education expand meaningfully? So far, creating new institutions with comparable prestige has proven extremely difficult.
That said, recent controversies at some elite universities may create opportunities for new entrants. There are clearly segments of society that are increasingly dissatisfied with what they perceive as ideological excesses at some Ivy League institutions. Whether that dissatisfaction is strong enough to support the emergence of new elite competitors remains to be seen, but it is one of the few forces that could materially increase supply.
My father immigrated to United States at age 44. He worked two jobs, seven days a week, and went to night school to earn a PhD.
He received his doctorate after six years, at age 66. Stay teachable.
Fight for your happiness. Do not quit on your dreams. Work hard. Be optimistic.
Fall in love with your life. Wake up early, buy your favorite coffee, go for walks, eat good food, wear what makes you feel confident, and listen to your favorite music. Purposefully create these small moments that make you fall in love with your life.