one thing i learned from being sad is you just have to feel it and once you’re done, you just need to go out of the room because life is so much bigger than the room you’ve been living in. trust me, it works.
Trees don’t panic in the winter thinking, "Oh no, I’m not growing leaves, I’m a failure." They just rest and wait for spring. You are allowed to have a low-yield season without calling it a personal crisis.
Tom Holland sharing a quote that said “if you have a problem with me, text me, and if you don’t have my number, you don’t know me well enough to have a problem with me” really stuck with me
People say, “Just reach out.”
But when you’ve spent your life being shut down, ignored, or punished for having basic needs.
Reaching out feels like walking into fire.
Fucking impossible.
My dad died around 4am. And the sun still came up. The cats still needed to be fed. Coffee needed to be made. A friend texted to see if I wanted to go thrifting. And I think it's kinda unfair that the rest of the world didn't stop too.
People who spend long periods of time at home and slowly lose the desire to go outside often think they're just resting. But psychologically, many of them are experiencing something called mental rumination. It's a state where the brain starts slowing down while the number of thoughts inside keeps increasing and the motivation to do anything slowly disappears. The mind gets stuck in the past, worries about the future and burns itself out. This isn't laziness, it's a nervous system stuck in survival mode. And the longer it lasts, the more distant normal life begins to feel. And the difficult part is that you usually can't escape it through one massive burst of motivation. And sometimes,recovery starts with just one small step.