"if you're working through trauma, why are you trying to date?" you will learn the true depths of your trauma from interacting with others. that's when you can see what exactly has to be worked on. in isolation, no one is around to trigger you. so how will you truly know?
i attended the funeral today of a friend's child, a young adult, who died by suicide.
the pastor ended the funeral by talking about her being embraced by Divine Love once and for all, and saying, "it was really rough for you down there. you did so well. welcome home."
@toxicgamer_69@fopminui @Morbidful I bet you are a miserable fool with a shrivelled dick and an attitude that's even worse than that of your pathetic father that failed to love or train you.
Going the extra mile for your partner because you love making them happy >>>>>>
Going the extra mile for your partner because of threats of new entrant(s) <<<<<<
@ChuGailx Same thing I was saying. I don't mind cooking for my man at 2am if it makes his life easier, because he's making mine easy as well.
Cooking because you feel threatened and probably don't trust him to enforce boundaries is something else.
Of all the lessons I have learned in love, with serious women, this is the most critical:
If you say you're going to mow the lawn, mow the lawn: Don't say you will mow the lawn if you don't intend to do it. Almost everything else can be forgiven, except unreliability.
@_Debbie_OA I don't know if you've seen it but they're saying that your man's work wife will still bring the two spoons and eat your food with him after eating the one she prepared.
As someone who always wanted to talk about the effects grief had on me but couldn't, I'd not mince words if I say that the coping mechanism that that approach is giving is only a mirage. In the nearest or farthest future, it'll be too overwhelming to handle on your own.