Anytime I see her watching Tv and using her phone, she gets a "one screen at a time" rebuke from me.
Initially, she'd respond with "leave me jor" but I was consistent.
So these days, like a stubborn ill tempered child, she'll act like she didn't hear me for a couple of seconds, before dropping the phone.
Was watching football yesternight and scrolling X, when I heard a stern "one screen at a time!" rebuke from behind.
It was her, doing her best impression of me.
My instinct in such situations is typically to casually dismiss her:
"Go away, woman"
After all, I'm Baba yehgha; no one tells me what to do, least of all a mere woman
But I caught myself, and realised if I did that, I'd lose the moral authority to enforce that same rule with her.
Because for a lesson or principle to be truly persuasive, it has to first apply to its author before it can effectively apply to its audience.
So I dropped the phone.
Then came a smug, satisfactory look on her face.
Moral of the story is that when you're trying to get someone to do or stop doing something, the day they start calling you out for the same misbehaviour is the day you know the lesson is being accepted.
And perhaps most importantly, when you willingly hold yourself to the same standard you've set, you legitimise it in a way no argument or justification ever could.
One of the strongest indicators that you've successfully taught a principle to someone isn't that they obey you, but that they start applying it to you too
Calling it “protecting their peace” doesn’t change the fact that repeatedly blocking and unblocking someone is inconsistent behaviour, not boundary setting. If you need to block someone they should stay blocked. Constant back and forth points to poor emotional regulation.
Once more people understand the difference between a generalisation and an exception less people would be offended. There’d be less of “but that’s not always the case”. We know but that doesn’t negate the fact that the generalisation is true.
If a generalisation strikes a chord, it’s worth introspecting - acknowledgment opens avenues for change.
If a woman asked the first three guy la she sees tonight "want to have sex" her odds of having sex are decent
If a man asks the first three women he sees if they want to have sex, his odds of an encounter with law enforcement are double his odds of having sex
@Moses_Ehizo No one is a “know-it-all”. Acknowledge your error when you waffle, and course correct. He however, seems to have a penchant for unnecessary stubbornness even when he is clearly wrong.
Isn't it interesting and ironic?
People have a problem with girls being girly until the girliness involves making a man, in whatever capacity, to wear makeup.
It's almost like girl dads never have girls that love football, tractor, cars and engines
Always silly makeup
Okay oh
"Because even in Scripture, God did not condemn women who challenged systems.
The daughters of Zelophehad fought.
They contended.
They challenged a structure that disadvantaged them."
Again, with the Daughters of Zelophehad
There was no woman in the Bible that challenged
@AsuzorDUN It's simple. The husbands have their own complaints but they stay and do what needs to be done despite how they feel. They don't create a movement and blame every woman because of their wives' failings. That is the Hallmark of duty and leadership.