“You’re still hurt by that? That was a long time ago!”
Not to a nervous system. Abusive behavior puts a brain on constant alert to send warning so it doesn’t happen again. It was a long time ago for the perpetrators, but survivors remember & experience it like it was yesterday.
my therapist said “people who struggle with anxiety & depression can't remember a lot, bc they're too busy focusing on how to get through each moment so they don t actually experience what is happening to them, causing them to not form the memory they were supposed to” felt that.
Breakups are ok. Losing friends is ok. Moving on is ok. Healing is ok. Saying no is ok. Being alone is ok. What is NOT ok is staying somewhere where u don't feel happy, valued, loved or appreciated.