I wish people understood that when someone seems to overexplain, it's often because of how much they've been misunderstood. They're trying to give you information that they assume is hard to understand based on how they've been treated. This deserves compassion, not criticism
when kafka said "all the love in the world is useless when there is total lack of understanding" and when richard siken said "if you love me, you don't love me in a way I understand."