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What's the Men's Social Health Newsletter good for anyway?

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@DrScottLear #2

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Friends will always need you.

You cannot be replaced by AI--so don't check out on your friends.

More in today's quick-read newsletter.

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@jan_schloesser I am all for more social interactions, but friends make a bigger difference thana huge number of social interactions combined.

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The glaring hole in the USA Surgeon General's statement on loneliness.

Make friends.

All the social recommendations made by the Surgeon General are good but do no good if we do not make friends.

Friends are the networks and connections we long for in this world.

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Retirement

Retirees need an extra dose of friendship to overcome a number of changes including:

*Schedule
*Identity
*Time
*Expectations
*Fixed income

Be a retiree's friend by listening to, spending time with, and encouraging them.

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One surefire way for men (all of us) to grow our emotional side.

Tell stories.

--Your story stirs up your own emotions.
--Telling it will help you give words to emotions in the story.
--Telling a story to a person brings up more emotions.

Telling stories = emotional workout

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@inside_teenmind Raising children is not a factory job turning out a product that meets sets of criteria.

Children are unique human masterpieces needing love, healthy boundaries, and guidance.

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That's a lot of friends involved!

Everyone is working together for a small commercial cabbage-growing operation that will benefit everyone.

The reality--friends of friends--social networks--are a blessing to everyone.

My takeaway: Be free with your networks.

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"These are my two sons and they are looking for a place to grow cabbage."

Words that felt strange, true, proud, and weird when they left my lips yesterday.

A story from the chief's palace and the quote below. 👇

"The friends of our friends are our friends."
African Proverb

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On Monday morning there are five of us in my truck on the way to Kalkina.

Zak, Alfred, and me plus two more links of friendship, Siiba, and Jusef.

We go to the chief's palace with a sub-chief who is a friend of Jusef and Zak.

That's a lot of...

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@fikawithkitty Congratulations!

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Jerk friends need to grow up or go away.

Your jerk friends might:

1) Make rude and offensive comments about groups of people.

2) Use put-downs and one-ups to look good and get a laugh.

3) Expect special treatment.

Watch & talk with them.

They can choose to grow or go

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@kiffercard @socialhealth_CA @GenWellProject Yes, I agree. Thank you for clarifying for me.

Studies show young boys have a wider range of emotional capacity than older boys and men.

Enculturation makes a wider differences between genders than we might otherwise experience.

I am one not fitting the cultural norm.

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Men and women approach friendships differently.

1) Men automatically think "fight or flight."

2) Women are more likely to share thoughts and feelings with one another.

3) Men center their time together around activities more than women.

What more can you add?

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@kiffercard @socialhealth_CA @GenWellProject Except that is not what the research cited actually states.

"Research studies, including analyses from the Canadian Social Connection Survey, highlight a variety of gender differences in the ways men and women relate to others"

From the study linked above.

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Take the risk to meet new people. Great things could be in store for you and a new set of friends.

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4 Barriers To Male/Male Friendships & 1 Solution

1) Competition
2) Lack of Role Models
3) Cultural Expectations of Tough vs. Vulnerable
4) Homophobia

Solution: Share your stories with your friends. You control the vulnerability.

What would you add?

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I got pushed into writing by a friend.

Kent is not a pushy salesman type of guy. No, he's the reserved professor type.

Seriously, he was a professor before he became a writer.

He kept telling me I could write and it would be good for me and others.

Who will you push today?

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@inside_teenmind Excellent thread! Thank you for the reminder Kiera.