Why Coaching Is Harder Than People Think (A Holiday Reminder)…
Because coaching isn’t just about plays, drills, or game nights.
It’s about people.
It’s about walking into practice every day and managing emotions you didn’t create but are responsible for.
Your own.
Your players.
Your assistants.
Parents.
Administrators.
Fans.
It’s about teaching kids who are all at different stages.
Different maturity levels.
Different confidence levels.
Different home situations.
And somehow holding them to the same standards while still meeting them where they are.
It’s about decisions that look simple from the stands but feel heavy from the sideline.
Who plays.
When.
Why.
How you communicate it.
And how that decision might land on a 16-year-old who ties their identity to minutes.
It’s about losing sleep over kids who won’t buy in.
Over conversations you need to have.
Over mistakes you replay in your head long after everyone else moved on.
It’s about being judged by people who see the outcome, not the process.
The scoreboard, not the hours.
The result, not the relationships.
And yet, you show up again.
You plan. You teach. You model. You care.
As the season slows and the holidays arrive, this is the reminder:
What you do matters.
Even when it goes unseen.
Even when it feels heavy.
Even when it’s hard.
Coaching is about influence. And influence lasts longer than any season.
That’s why coaching is harder than people think. And also why it matters so much.
As the year winds down, I hope you find a little rest, a little perspective, and a lot of pride in the work you’re doing.
🎄Happy Holidays, Coach.
Great to see our very own West Point Rugby @WestPointRugby star (Grace Christian’s class of ’23) — Luke Lentfer today! Luke is just one of the many high-quality young men who embody leadership, grit, and character — and make our Grace community proud.
It was a joy to watch my former player (and the current men’s assistant coach at UAF) @tobin_karlberg do his thing this weekend! Two days before I got to spend time with Tobin’s wingman @jimmyginger13. I’m always honored these guys and many others call me coach!
Not surprised @thefullcurl and @tobin_karlberg have had a sensational first year guiding the Nanooks basketball teams. Not a more challenging D2 job in the nation to recruit to and hardly no time to assemble a roster…”Nobody cares-work harder”. Winners gonna win… respects!
We can’t change it (reclassification) so we talked a lot about “burning the ships” this offseason…. Keep playing with JOY!
“When your army has crossed the border, …burn your boats and bridges, in order to make it clear to everybody that you have no hankering after home” TZU