People don’t realize that you can actually push someone so far that they no longer want anything to do with you anymore. This applies to friendships, relationships, or even family. Sometimes, people assume that because you love them, whether as a friend, partner, or family member you will continue to tolerate anything, disrespect, neglect, hurtful actions , lack of effort, or emotional stress.
Everyone has limits, and there is only so much one person can take before they choose peace over connection.
Even the most patient, kind-hearted person can reach their breaking point. When someone continuously feels unappreciated, misunderstood, or mistreated, they can reach a place where they emotionally disconnect. And once someone emotionally disconnects, it is very hard to repair that relationship.
I will never again pretend to be the easygoing, low maintenance girl. I love receiving flowers without having to ask. I appreciate unexpected “thinking of you” texts and thoughtful check ins. I enjoy forehead kisses and good morning messages. I like being taken on meaningful dates that I didn’t have to plan.
I want to be shown off, not hidden, like someone you’re proud to have. I love affection, intentional time together, and little surprises. I like to be loved out loud. I’m done making myself smaller to be easier to love. I love hard and I won’t apologize for it anymore.
A healthy man reflects and adjusts when he realizes he’s hurting you.
A toxic man will hurt you, twist the situation, and still expect you to tolerate it as “who he is.
Hot take: Normalise leaving people to avoid empathy burnout like yes I love you but I’m tired of having to ask you to consider me, or not seeing the principles of where you went wrong.
You have to feel every single inch of your hurt. Romantic, platonic, family. You have sit in it. Cry, eat the ice cream, cancel plans. Feel it deeply. And one day, you simply won’t anymore. And all will be okay.