my mom once told me "accountability will always feel like an attack when you are not ready to acknowledge how your behavior harms others" and that shit is real.
It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out, feed you, do nice things for you, and compliment you.
You should never have to teach someone to do that.
I’ve seen men walk away from 5–10 year relationships, then turn around and marry a woman they’ve known for 6 months suddenly doing all the things their ex begged for years. Word of advice, stop preaching to these men. They hear you. He’s just never going to become the man you want him to be because you’re not the woman he wants to be with. People don’t change for love in general, they change for who they truly want.
The hardest truth you'll face as a woman is realizing that a man can stay with you for years without ever truly choosing you.
He can enjoy your company,your body, your loyalty, and still never step into the role of making you his life partner.
i saw a girl on tiktok who said "accountability is so important to me. nobody's perfect, but don't try to flip the script and make my reaction the issue when your actions lit the match" i felt this to the core.
Nobody can ever gaslight me into thinking I’m a bad person. I have my ways and my days, but I’m solid, and my love is real and genuine every step of the way.