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السَّلَفِيَةٌ مَنْه‍َجِي

[HalālPair @halal_pair]

Dear elder brothers and sisters, please give your youngest brother, the last born, full independence when he gets married. As much as he is still expected to respect you as his elders, please treat him as an independent adult and extend same to his family too.

This action is secretly suffocating and ruining marriages. No woman will be happy seeing her husband treated like an errand boy. If his self esteem is not affected the wife can't be happy about it. Please accord him some respect, most times he will eagerly give you the respect you deserve in manifolds.

Many wives are dying in silence because they can't complain lest they will be seen as family destroyers. Do not try to over influence his marital decisions. Let him hold his naming ceremonies in his own house, it mustn't be held in the house of the eldest son. He shouldn't need your permision to take certain decisions like buy a car or build a house. A man old enough to be married is old enough to make his own decisions.

It gets even worse if those elders sponsored his education or made him who he is as it is said. It is bad to expect your own brother to be enslaved to you because of a favour you did him. We would have thought all you did was for seeking the pleasure of your Lord. Please, let your younger brothers feel like an independent man.

If you are the youngest of the family and for some reason you are unable to gain some level of independence from your brothers and sisters when you get married, please make concrete plans to ensure your wife doesn't get dragged into that arrangement. She is your wife, and of course she is expected to respect your family members. But it is respect not enslavement. As a woman marrying the last born of the family these are some of the things to look out for.

A. Haroun

[HalālPair @halal_pair]

SEXUAL LIMIT
By
Sheikh Abdurraheem Abdussalam

Sexual immorality is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the norm and the pious are also being infected. Married women are not left out, many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day. The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming!

It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. It's no news that 10- 13 years 13-year-old kids now have sex with each other.
Staying sexually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.

One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit sex is overconfidence. The belief that you can be free around the opposite sex and nothing would happen! A lot will happen!

One of the ways you can stay sexually pure, whether married or single the end times is to set strict boundaries. If you are too careless around the opposite sex, you will fall flat on your face! That is the truth.

The earlier you believe this and work on it, the better. You can't be careless around the opposite sex and hope to stay sexually pure; set boundaries!

Some people can't be your friends; raise the standard. Anybody can call you names; that's their headache, you have your Deen and honour to protect.

As a rule, I don't make friends with liars, gossips, and jealous people. They make life so complicated. If you believe in illicit sex, we can't be friends, period!

Monitor your chats. Don't allow anybody to send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sound, warn them, and if they refuse to stop, block them!

Don't hug or shake hands with the opposite sex. Don't allow anybody to call you pet names (except your close family members and same sex friends), it doesn't make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite sex on; if you don't know that, know it right now. Be sensitive to attractions. Don't be naive around the opposite sex; know when a man/woman is sexually attracted to you and move back from that person. If they focus too much on your physique and body, they are sexually attracted to you; move back.

Know when you are sexually attracted to someone and move back. It's perfectly normal to have chemistry with someone. Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most beautiful, virtuous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from being attracted to someone else. Know when the thought of another man/woman gets you excited and move back.

Don't go into any relationship with the opposite sex except when Nikah is intended and with strict adherence to the dictates of the Sharee'ah. Study and find out about the person, know what they stand for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back!

Leadership attracts all kinds of people. If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented, or intelligent, the opposite sex will show more interest in you; be careful who you allow to get close to you.

Accepts gifts with care. Men don't joke with their time and money. If he spends so much time and money on you, especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for sex *Subuhanallaah!!!*.

Stop begging men for money. Work with your two hands and raise your standard and be contented. Men will respect and honour you for it.

Work on your marriage. Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage; adultery is the result.
Be prayerful, be watchful. ..."

Don't stay with or counsel the opposite sex in a dark or lonely room.
Avoid provocative dresses and pictures.

Let your spouse or parents advise you on what is okay for you. Stick to the rules and regulations guiding dressing in Islam.

Avoid and stop posting pictures on social media. Don't visit the opposite sex alone without a mahram. It doesn't make sense, and it is equally prohibited.

These and more are the things you need to do to stay *sexually pure* in this 21st century.

People may laugh at you, it doesn't matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic, fanatic, oversensitive or paranoid, don't give a damn! Your Deen and honour are too precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid friends who make fun of chastity and make friends with people who appreciate purity and modesty.

Finally, avoid the second look, as far as possible. You may be excused for the first unintended look, but the second is taken against you.

*Set your boundaries and never allow anyone to compromise your Modesto or Piety .*

Advice from a friend.

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