According to a family law firm (practicing law for decades) 48% of โteenage brideโ marriages end in divorce. Thats high!..
But what do you mean by โOK?โ
But at least he gives you something, which means so much.
Work out a middle ground with him. Next holiday, give him a list of three items that he can choose from.
How often does the son vacation?
If heโs retired, that means he worked all his life.
It sounds like the mom is divorced/widowed, and alone, without a male partner to pester.
This is so common, we created a term โfriend zoneโ.
The only way to find out, is to ask.
He probably has enough male friends. If she says no (to something more), he can afford loosing her as a friend, sadly.