👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋

Research Analyst | School Manager | Godfather | Traveler

[👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋 @Jimmy_ogs]

Work * Believe * Triumphant 🙃

[Mr. Láyí @layiwasabi]

new parents, you see that your kid’s primary education? spend money on it.

[Chase Harris @chaseharris98]

You’ll never start winning until you admit you’re losing

[B/R Football @brfootball]

Cristiano Ronaldo’s Portugal story is one that will never be forgotten 🇵🇹👑

[👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋 @Jimmy_ogs]

@Cristiano Thank you for the beautiful memories, the unforgettable moments, and for making me fall in love with the game. 🐐

[👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋 @Jimmy_ogs]

Spent all day renovating my office.🤹🏾‍♂️😇

[👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋 @Jimmy_ogs]

@firstklaz_ 🎥🎯

[𝓜𝓪𝓭𝓲𝓷𝓪𝓱❤️ @Dearest__deeeee]

I want to travel the world, not just for vacations, but for work, conferences, summits, volunteering, workshops, education, and opportunities to make a real impact.

[Davina_ @Daavinah]

the older you get, the more you realize luck is mostly exposure, if you sit in the same place, have the same routine, talk to the same person, nothing new really happens, you have to engage the world to win, travel more. talk to people.

[👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋 @Jimmy_ogs]

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[心灵书舫 | SoulSloop @SoulSloop99]

好命福报大的人是怎样的？

1、记住了：过劳者死、过慧者天、困了就睡，饿了就吃，有活就干，没苦就别硬吃。人性玄学，因果真相看了让人大彻大悟：人的相貌七年一变,人的气色七天一变，人的神韵七分钟一变。人是气死的，花是浇死的。

凡是大病，必与情绪有关，长期情绪不佳，必定会催生大病。养生不是一味地讲究吃什么喝什么，养生养的是心态，养的是情怀，
养的是格局。凡是劝不动、拦不住的，那就是命。但凡有一个人拼死都不听劝，说明这条弯路他必须走，这个劫他必须渡。

2、说一个你可能不信的玄学真相：老天真正想给你什么东西，一定是推着你走，让你毫不费力地得到。恰好你有这个想法,
想做某件事，突然就有贵人来帮你，一切水到渠成，稀里糊涂地就成功了，这就是命。

3、衣服能少买就尽量少买，饭能少吃就尽量少吃。古人有一句话说得好：“减衣增福，减食增寿。"现在的人恰恰相反，都在增衣增食，欲望不停地增长，身体的负担也不停地加重。我们要学会给生活做减法，减少不必要的负担和开支。《道德经》上说：“知足不辱，知止不殆，可以长久。"懂得适可而止，福禄才能长长久久，连绵不断。大道至简，修行的最高境界是低配生活、高配灵魂。智慧的人都是減衣减食，减少欲望，懂得丰盈自己内心的人，才能活得更加通透。

4、不管你信与不信，你能嫁给什么样的，是你自己修来的，因为福报相等，方为夫妻。有福之女不进无福之家，无福之人进不了有福之家。人与人的气场都是相通的，你本身福分不够，才会进入无福之家。所有配偶都不要去抱怨你的另一半，因为你俩的福报业力差不多。积德行善，积累福报，当你的福报足，你就能拥有好的家庭和婚姻。

5、配不上你的人，老天会自动让他退场。当上天想让你转运，但你身边的人又配不上你的时候，这时他会让你心里承受背叛之苦，甚至你会跌入谷底。但你要记住，这一切并不是为了毁了你，而是要把压轴的礼物留给你。否极泰来，最后接到的往往都是最好的。

6、不把别人对你的排挤、孤立、诋毁当做是坏事，那是你的福报。你有没有想过，为什么会触发别人对你使用烂手段污蔑你呢？
因为你的福报太大了，大到引起他们的嫉妒、眼红和排挤。他们想用这种方式来消耗你的福报，让你在这个过程中纠结、自寻烦恼。表面上他们是在关注你，实际上他们是在羡慕你，因为你太优秀了，有你在的地方，他们毫无存在感。俗话说，有福之人千人恨，无福之人恨千人，所以他们根本就是没有福报的。

7、言语压君子，衣冠震小人。人一定要注意自己的形象，身若衣裳没人欺，肚里无食无人知。南怀瑾老先生说，人只有留下第一次印象，才会有第二次的机会。先敬衣后敬人，先敬皮囊后敬魂。形象一定要走在能力前面，因为这个世界上有太多的人会以貌取人，从一个人的穿衣品位来评判你的实力，不然你就很容易被低估。

8、永远不要在别人没有求你的情况下去帮助任何人。因为每一个人都是在苦难中成长，如果你在别人没有找你的情况下去帮
助别人，就是把你自己的想法强加给他人，是一种总想展示自己慈悲的欲望，不仅会消耗自身能量，还会害了他人。因为经历和劫难都是用来醒悟的，你帮别人跳过了这个步骤，他就永远无法明白其中真正的道理。如果一个道理不是自己悟出来的，就不能够完全吸收和理解。这就是为什么很多人读了很多书，知道很多道理，却依然一事无成,因为这个是他们自己悟出来的道理。这个世界没有救世主，能解救自己的只有自己。

9、记住了，过劳者死，过慧者天，困了就睡，饿了就吃，有活就干，没苦就别硬吃。吃苦的意义并不等同于意义非凡，吃喝玩乐也不等同于虚度光阴，笨不笨也没有关系，人生的意义是在当下。这些看似玄乎道理，从不是什么虚无的天命，而是老祖宗藏在人间烟火里的生存智慧。所谓的福报磁场命数终究是抵不过一颗平常的心。最实在的玄
学，也是最通透的活。

都刷到这里了，祝你祝我祝我们大家一顺百顺。

[NneChukwu! @Okeke_Uz]

As a parent, you need to know that a child who is never allowed to fail does not necessarily become confident. Sometimes you are just raising an adult who has never learned to sit with the consequences of their actions, and may never.

Every little thing sends you into defence and protection mode.

You call to caution the teacher over small issues. You go to their school to physically attack the teacher over a disciplinary measure taken against your child. There is always someone to blame for poor exam scores or rebellious behavior. Someone always fixes their mess.

Then when they grow up and resume at an office where nobody is paid to rescue them, their very first query feels like persecution, and the manager who asks for a report on time is suddenly "toxic."

Guiding children is like holding the seat for a child learning to ride a bicycle. If you always hold it, the child will find it very difficult to learn to balance. And, if you let go too early on a bad road, the child will break a knee.

So the wise parent runs beside the bicycle, lets go on the smooth stretch, and is still close enough to pick the child up when the fall comes.

But there is another side to this teaching that I always love to talk about.

Letting your child face the consequences of their own decisions shouldn't mean leaving them to repeat the mistakes you already made.

You know what it cost you to marry in a hurry, to not take your academics seriously, to not give your savings to a "trusted" friend, to ignore your health until it shouted, to loaf around at 25 and have nothing at 45, or to stay quiet when you should have spoken up.

Those lessons were expensive, and I don't see why your child should go through them again, unless they are bent on learning it the hard way.

There is this lady who got pregnant at 16, in SS2. Her father disowned her. Her lover boy disappeared. And her secondary school quietly asked her not to return.

She sold pure water by the roadside with a baby tied to her back, while her mates finished secondary school and went on to university.

Though she did go back to school in the end, because God is faithful and her mother never gave up on her, but it took 9 years to get what should have taken 4.

As soon as her daughter turned 13, she knew she had to start talking to her. But instead of the usual speech, "Don't let any boy touch you or I will kill you," she sat her daughter down and told her about her life. That even though she was the best thing that ever happened to her, her choice of man was poor.

She told her what her choices cost her, the price she paid, and how she would have given anything to do things differently.

She made sure to equip her daughter with information to guide her into making better choices.

With the type of smart children we are raising these days, honest conversations do more than 100 threats ever would.

As mothers, because we spend more time with these children, we need to give them truth without shame, love them without conditions, and give them ample room to ask questions without fear of being shut down or punished.

A child who can ask you anything will tell you everything, but a child who is afraid of you will learn to lie beautifully.

So it is important that we tell our stories without shame and without a sermon. Tell your child your mistakes, what they cost you, and what you would do differently if God gave you another chance.

Those scars of yours can become their map.

Where the road is one you have already walked, guide them with the truth.

Where the road is theirs to walk, stand beside them, let them feel the weight of their decisions, and help them make sense of it afterwards.

Protect them from your mistakes, and prepare them for their own.

As parents, the greatest gift you can give your child is wisdom from your past and the freedom to learn from their own choices, while you are still close enough to hold their hand.

Selah!

[👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋 @Jimmy_ogs]

@the_olawunmi Marriage & children aren’t a must do milestones, and nobody owes society an explanation for how they choose to live their lives. 👀

[Iremide @RxIremide]

The ability to adjust your vocabulary to suit whoever you're speaking to is an underrated life skill that many people lack.

[BITCOIN CHIEF (AKA OMA JI EGO) @gaiuschibueze]

After 38 years of living, I have come to realize that making money and having money is an energy thing.

When you are depressed, unexcited about life, and have nothing to look forward to, your chances of making money can become very slim.

But when you are excited, happy, and in a good mood, your chances of making money can increase because you become more willing to try new things, take risks, explore opportunities, and believe that things can work out in your favor.

So, one thing I want you to understand today is this: No matter what you are going through, try as much as possible to put yourself in a joyful mood. Stay excited about life as you pursue whatever it is you are trying to achieve.

Your energy influences your actions, and your actions influence your results.

Sometimes, the first step towards changing your financial situation is changing the state of mind from which you approach life.

[👴🏽Oldest Butterfly🦋 @Jimmy_ogs]

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[Liam Canning @LiamPaulCanning]

Fold the club. Now.

[Alex Onyia @winexviv]

Only First Class and Second Class Upper graduates should qualify to become teachers. Teachers’ starting salaries should be a minimum of ₦500,000 per month.

Teachers should be required to take professional qualification examinations every two years.

There should be an Education Bank where teachers can access very low-interest loans for car financing, home financing and other essential needs.

Teaching should be one of the most prestigious and highly respected professions in the country.

[Preach Ojukwu 🇮🇪 @TrendfusionNG]

1. I have read the comments under this discussion, and there is a pattern worth examining.

2. People gave examples of Indians helping fellow Indians find shops, suppliers, jobs and business opportunities, while Nigerians sometimes hide even simple information from one another: where to buy goat meat, where vacancies exist, how to enter an industry.

3. The usual conclusion is: “Indians help themselves. Nigerians hate themselves.”

4. I think the explanation is deeper.

India is enormously diverse, and not every Indian is Hindu. But many Indian communities abroad have built strong family, religious, professional and commercial networks. The important word is *network

5. A network survives because people believe helping another member strengthens the community rather than diminishes themselves.

6. Now compare that with a particular religious culture that has grown powerful in Nigeria.

7. For decades, sections of Nigerian Christianity have taught people to interpret life through suspicion.

Household enemies.

Village enemies.

Enemies pretending to be friends.

People monitoring your destiny.

Someone trying to steal your blessing.

Someone spiritually attacking your marriage, business or promotion.

“Die by fire.”

“Every enemy of my destiny…”

8. Listen to enough of that language and eventually it affects social trust.

9. Your neighbour stops being merely your neighbour. He becomes a possible enemy.

10. Your successful friend becomes someone whose intentions must be questioned.

11. The person asking how you found an opportunity becomes someone who might eventually “compete with your destiny.”

12. And once a society loses trust, people begin hoarding information.

They hide opportunities.

They hide contacts.

They hide suppliers.

They make moves secretly.

13. Why?

Because cooperation requires trust.

14. You cannot spend Sunday being taught that enemies are everywhere and expect Monday morning to produce effortless community solidarity.

15. There is another problem.

Certain forms of prosperity Christianity have turned success into spiritual competition.

16. Your new house becomes evidence that God answered you.

Your promotion proves your prayers worked.

Your visa becomes a testimony.

Your business becomes evidence of divine favour.

17. Suddenly another person's success can feel like a comparison between whose God is “working” better.

18. That creates competition where community should exist.

19. So two Nigerians can leave Lagos, Enugu or Abuja, meet again in London, Toronto or Houston, and still carry the same psychological baggage.

Changing countries does not automatically change culture.

20. If people have been conditioned for years to see rivals, enemies and spiritual threats everywhere, Heathrow Airport does not magically convert suspicion into solidarity.

21. This is why shouting, “Look at Indians! Look at Arabs! Why can't Nigerians help Nigerians?”misses the point.

22. Communities cooperate when their institutions teach belonging, trust, reciprocity and common purpose.

23. If your institutions repeatedly teach suspicion, individual deliverance and invisible enemies, fragmentation should not surprise you.

24. Certain strands of Nigerian Christianity therefore need serious cultural reform.

Less obsession with enemies.

Less spiritual paranoia.

Less competition over blessings.

More community.

More cooperation.

More trust.

More teaching that another person's progress does not reduce yours.

25. Until that happens, Nigerians may travel thousands of kilometres from home and discover that they carried the same divisions with them.

26. You cannot preach suspicion for decades and expect solidarity to suddenly appear at immigration.

27. There is no magical formation of love simply because we have arrived in another man's land.

[Fola Aina @folanski]

The day you recongnize that you don't need the permission of others to move forward in life, is the day all limitations you have placed on yourself evaporates.

[Complex @Complex]

Woman who lost her battle with cancer left behind a note on what matters most (2017)

[via/ FB Holly Butcher]

[𝔽𝕝𝕒𝕞𝕫𝕪 ♔ 🥷🏽 @hw_flamzy]

Nobody talks about the part where you have to keep believing in yourself while nothing is working yet.