John Kauffman

Retired Golf Coach

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

Absolutely crazy.....not an ND fan at all but..... Backed this up and recorded in slow mo... 1 second still on the clock when ball is incomplete... 1 more play...

[Jamie🦅Slonis @JamieSlonis]

Team USA in Alternate Shot…

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

Top 10 finish in a loaded field! Great tournament @bmm_06!

[Cincinnati M-Golf @GoBearcatsMGOLF]

Paced by Brayden Miller's career-best T9 finish, Cincinnati finishes fourth at the Gopher Invitational Monday in Minnesota. Up next, the Bearcats tee it up at the Cullan Brown Collegiate Oct. 5-6 in Lexington, Ky.

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[Cincinnati M-Golf @GoBearcatsMGOLF]

Led by Brayden Miller in a tie for fourth at 2-under, Cincinnati sits in a tie for fourth at 8-over with a round to play at the Gopher Invitational. Final-round play begins at 8:30 a.m. ET Monday.

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[Fairfield AD @FHSFalconScores]

News: Fairfield Boys Golf Sweeps Fremont and Eastside at Zollner https://t.co/MJC5O5s2yh

[Chuck Freeby Sports @ChuckFreeby]

How about this from the @FairfieldGolf2 alum @bmm_06?

[Brad Sparling @playgolfcollege]

I ran a poll asking what the most important factor in a junior golfer’s development is.

I was shocked that everybody didn’t pick Parenting.

Because after 25 years in competitive golf, having 3 kids of my own play D1 golf, coaching at Duke and Ohio State, and working with hundreds of junior golf families, here’s what I’ve observed, researched and learned:

How you parent is the single biggest factor in your child’s junior golf success.

Almost nobody shows parents how to do this well. I’m on a mission to change that.

So, here are the 10 most important factors in elite golf parenting. From my chapter on Parenting in Becoming Elite:

1.Create a Safe Environment. Your home must be a safe harbor, not a pressure cooker. Your love is unconditional and separate from their golf score. Same affection after an 85 as after a 65. If your mood changes with their scorecard, you are creating a toxic environment that destroys their love for the game. And eventually your relationship.

2.The Car Ride Home. This is where most parents blow it. The car ride home is a sanctuary. A no golf talk zone. Enforce the 48 Hour Rule. Let them decompress, listen to music, stare out the window. The post round autopsy is one of the most damaging things a parent can do.

3.Body Language. Your kids are reading you on every single shot. Every. Single. Shot. A fist pump after a birdie tells them birdies are what matter. Slumped shoulders after a bogey tells them you’re disappointed. Your expression must be the same after a birdie as after a double bogey. Calm, positive, steady. You are the emotional thermostat.

4.Communication. The most important words when they come off the 18th green: I love to watch you play. Not “what did you shoot.” Not “what happened on 12.” After 48 hours, ask open ended questions. How do you feel about your round? What were you most proud of? What do you want to work on? You are a facilitator, not a judge.

5.Creating Ownership. A player led journey is sustainable. A parent led journey leads to burnout. If you are more invested than they are, that is a red flag. Motivation must come from within. Great parents ask questions instead of giving answers. The player who owns their development keeps improving long after the lessons end.

6. Giving them Freedom. Be a lighthouse, not a tugboat. At tournaments, stay at least 50 yards away. Do not walk the fairway with them or stand behind every green. Give them space to breathe and compete. Do not talk to them during the round unless they initiate. They are in their performance bubble. Do not burst it.

7.Allowing Them to Fail. Failure is not the enemy. It is a prerequisite to growth. Your child is more resilient than you think. They can handle failure and disappointment. They need you to believe in them and let them learn, not protect them from every setback. Removing the opportunity to fail is the real enemy.

8.Staying in Your Lane. You are the parent. Not the coach. Not the caddy. Not the swing analyst. These roles do not mix. Constantly offering swing advice creates a toxic triangle of confusion. Hire a professional. Trust them. Stay out of the way. Your job is love and support. Period.

9.Building an Identity Beyond Golf. If your child’s entire sense of self worth is tied to their golf score, you are setting them up for misery. They are a person who plays golf, not the other way around. Encourage other interests. Protect their social life. Let them go to school dances. Family vacations and time with siblings are sacred. A one dimensional identity is one of the three ingredients that causes burnout.

10.Playing the Long Game. This is a 10 year journey, not a 10 tournament sprint. You are not in a race to be the best 12 year old golfer. You are on a patient journey to see how good they can be at 18, at 22, and beyond. Slow down. The car rides, the early morning tee times, the post round ice cream. These are the moments you will remember. Savor them.

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

@AngolaBoysGolf High school athletics at its best!! ❤️❤️

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

@bmm_06 👀opening round 68 🔥 at 7249 yards! Let's go Brayden!! Keep it going! @indianahsgolf

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

@GolfGarrettCC @KenFillmore AGREE!!

[Indiana HS Golf @indianahsgolf]

Brayden Miller @bmm_06 is going for his THIRD Boys State Match Play 🏆 (not a typo).

What an unreal fight it will be, with the hottest player on the 🌏 Will Harvey @RocksGolf, phenom @PeytonBlackard, and an absolute monster from @Westview_AD Haarer.

Ackerman will be 🔥!

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

This class of (25) going at in the morning!!! Let's go @bmm_06!!

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

@indianahsgolf 3 from the NECC conference💪

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

NECC conference representing at the state finals this afternoon!!! 3 out of the final 8!!! Let's go!!

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

👁️👁️ Look at this 4some teeing it up tomorrow morning at the State Championship! 🐥🐥Will be dropping! representing (25)🔥

[Dean Huppert @HuppertDean]

A day after being named Indiana’s Mr. Golf, and finishing two grueling rounds at the State Finals, Brayden Miller qualifies for one of the biggest and best Amateur tournaments in the world.

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

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[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

@rocksathletics @RocksGolf @IHSAA Congratulations!! Great group of guys led by some great coaches!! Awesome performance! Well deserved!

[John Kauffman @JohnK965]

Anyone that hasn't followed high school Golf the last 4 years.... This class of 25 is pretty good. To walk away with this award... This year.. Let's go @bmm_06!!!

[Indiana HS Golf @indianahsgolf]

Let’s just call him INDIANA MR. GOLF.

Congratulations to Brayden Miller, his family, and Fairfield. Brayden, thank you, congratulations, and go tear it up in Cincinnati!

Brayden Miller is the 2025 IHSGCA Mr. Golf award winner—

[Ryan Bowen @Ryan_Bowen3]

@indianahsgolf @bmm_06 @FairfieldGolf2 @Fromthecartpath @GoBearcatsMGOLF I have never met Brayden, but I really appreciate the fact he played HS golf for all 4 years. He showed great loyalty to his community, HS, & friends at a time when sadly others think they are too good for HS golf. If Patrick Rodgers can play 4 years of HS golf, everyone can.