To OP's point, affirmations of validity don't mean anything if you're self-assured in your own existence. Feeling "invalid" is a personal issue, while real external threats to trans life exist and must be stopped
We must move past "Validity"โthe long hangover from Tumblr Tucute vs Transmed arguments, where some trans people explicitly argued there were "invalid" ways of being trans. They (rightfully) lost and don't really exist anymore, but the reflex to assert validity remains, e.g.
At this stage in my life (and the present Trans panic) I find myself simply uninterested in validity. My politic is built around the material needs of Trans people (medical, financial, social, etc). I have been and will continue to be inspired by those that *do* Transness.
Transexuals have specific material, medical needs as a community that are currently under threat. And to even say you are uninterested in validity, is often taken as a threat to others' "validity".
Trans men are framed as ontologically victims, and trans women as predators. Once you recognize this as the through-line through nearly all transphobic discourse, a lot of things snap into focus.
@burnthelilacs There isn't a standard term because there being one would normalize it as a permissible way to be. Lack of a non-humanizing way to say "I am X" reinforces that being a feminine boy is deviant and must be corrected. A great example of how these dynamics are asymmetric.
@ibrahimibnyusuf Oppression in traditional fields drives the minority to niches that aren't important enough to enforce, then mainstream success reincorporation pushes them to prominence. IMO (not an expert) there's parallels for the black community's consistent role wrt innovation American music
@ibrahimibnyusuf Early American Cinema is always my go-to example โ huge, huge involvement and ownership by Jews that became a major cultural force, because we were involved from the ground level before routine anti-Semitism could be entrenched and enforced.
@LocalCreature It's the same mindset that generates "I wish I was AMAB so I could do real gender-fuckery". Backlash and oppression from admittedly bad systems become seen as validation, and thus envying others more subject to that oppression, and being suspicious of them for not revelling in it
@AlicetheWitchy@Shattubatu Kinda unrelated to OP but that is pretty standard. You wanna be sure your natural growth has settled before augmentation, so that you don't have anything unexpected happen post-surgery. Need a stable base for surgery to have reliable results.