example: early in a relationship your partner says they want to go on a retreat with people they just met, or get into a hiking group or just have some time alone.
j"ohnny just mumbles, nuzzling deeper into the soft fabric of your (his) t-shirt, the warmth of your breasts enveloping his face.sfeeling alright?"
adly, no.
If one is trained to treat whatever is loudest as what matters most, he'll spend every unit of energy he has on things that were urgent this morning and forgotten by Friday.