Toli Lietauja

Mostly observing. Occasionally compelled to comment.

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Massachusetts: a juror wants to vote guilty, so they are working to have the juror removed. Lindsay Clancy trial.

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@yaldash78 @ellenldraw @901Lulu How are you comprehending it ? I’m really curious? I’m not sure how to read what just happened

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@Lillyin_London @Skipvue I feel the one holding out would be accused of not thinking about reasonable doubt. Everyone else can claim reasonable doubt by saying not guilty

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@901Lulu Sadly yes

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@ellenldraw @901Lulu This doesn’t make sense based on Reddington wanting to remove that one juror ?

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@rosecoloredmeg_ @ellenldraw @901Lulu It was not stated specifically I’m just trying to read between the lines sort of speak. it just said reddington wants to remove one for not following the law then reasonable doubt law read and Reddington mad . I’m thinking if not for that one juror it would be in defense favor ?

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@ellenldraw @901Lulu So why defense wants to try to remove that juror

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@realJennaEllis I read it as 11 in favor of defense

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@Lillyin_London That’s how i saw it :11 not guilty . Although it wasn’t stated like that . But wow

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My first pregnancy was full of hope and dreams about the future, birth was premature and I had PTSD from NICU, postpartum was all consumed praying for a baby to survive no time to dwell on myself. My second pregnancy was full of fear and never appreciated each day of being pregnant more and as biggest gift, I had postpartum blues but grateful second child didn’t have to what first one went through. Motherhood is exhausting but not life draining and haunted. I would give anything to be able to cuddle my first child right away like I did my second. Thankfully they are both thriving and healthy now. It’s surprising and sad to see so many women saying how awful motherhood is

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@Rumanich @Kfastlove Yes but it could have still be beating while she went upstairs and stopped before medics arrived . That’s the point

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I kept thinking this morning about how polarizing this entire discussion has become- men vs women -when it really shouldn’t be.

You are absolutely right that there needs to be greater awareness that an overwhelming fear of accidentally harming your baby, doing something wrong, or not being a good mother can be a very normal part of the postpartum experience. Not feeling an immediate bond with your baby can be normal too, and women need to know that they are not alone or broken.

I never experienced that myself, but thankfully my sister had talked to me about it. I still remember my older sister telling me that after her first child was born, she felt incredibly sad and alone and believed something must be wrong with her. There was almost no education or honest conversation about postpartum feelings then. When she had her second child five years later, so much had changed-and simply understanding what she might experience made postpartum much easier for her.

I didn’t realize you were responding to normal, educational videos about this because I ran away from TikTok the moment I saw the first few truly disturbing ones. So I’m sorry I reacted without fully trying to understand Everyone is understandably high-strung, and the opinions have become so extreme. I know he is reacting to those alarming videos, and honestly, part of me wants to believe they are fake bot accounts designed to convince men that mothers are somehow vicious or dangerous. But these appear to be real women choosing to film and post these things publicly. I can’t help thinking that their children may see those videos one day.

There has to be room for compassion, education, and honest conversations about normal postpartum struggles without excusing or sensationalizing genuinely disturbing behavior. Where did basic common sense go?

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@pcosprincess22 Everything else we agree on . I guess we just reacted emotionally different to tik tok videos .

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Matt Walsh can be very extreme in his views and I don’t always agree with him but what he is responding to himself - is totally warranted. These tik tok videos are absolutely insane and truly insulting to mothers. It’s one thinking being nervous to lose balance and drop the baby while walking down the stares, be nervous to hurt baby by dressing them too warm or leave them unattended by few minutes and while another psychotic videos of moms throwing baby in the washing machine going and then purposely slamming them into door frame. These videos are absolutely disgusting. And if you agree they are true portrayal of real mom worries I don’t have much to add

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You said intrusive thoughts a meant to keep us super aware. I disagree. Our senses become super aware - hearing baby sounds , seeing danger, reaction time, sleeping lightly - all biologically enhanced to protect the baby. When intrusive thoughts start that’s when you seek help. It’s not supposed to be treated as normal and recognized as red flag to seek help. Being super aware to baby’s needs does not equal intrusive thoughts but heightened senses. For sure intrusive thoughts can come as part of ppd or ppp. Im not arguing that. I believe you did not make clear distinction here and I stand by what I said

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@NoRiskaNoReward @mrs_g_rider See how she chose not to kill and found a way