"its easy to be a socialist and virtue signal than to accept reality and hard truths of capitalism" there is so much wrong here but i am just not gonna put the effort to explain
it mostly arises from the lack of clear communication of needs and men mostly assuming or having this preconceived notion that she wouldn't want to be pampered, also for to a lot of men a working woman is not really the idea of femininity
I was thinking about how women who prefer to be just housewives are loved more and they are considered to be more feminine than women who work.
As a working woman I have never received that care from my other half. Usually it turns into "gender equality and shit"