When Dostoevsky said:
“Isolate as much as you want to become stronger, even if you see that loneliness is an unbearable hell, it is much better than the multiple masks of humans”
Men, you're not responsible for a woman's happiness. You'll break yourself trying to make her happy only to end up being let down. Avoid the miserable. They're always complaining, tired, bored & miserable.
As a former crash out myself, ignoring people is way more powerful. It’s not even about “being the bigger person” in a moral sense. It’s more like moving differently. When you don’t react, you force everything back onto them. Their chaos has nowhere to land, so it echoes back.
You’ll watch someone make a good decision for their life.
And the first reaction from people around them is:
“so you think you’re better than us?”
Growth feels like betrayal to losers
Five minutes after you’re born, they decide your name, religion, tribe, nationality, and sect. Then you spend the rest of your life defending what you did not choose.
Tu as peur de suivre une formation de 4 ans parce que tu as 28 ans, et qu'à la fin, tu auras 32 ans. Que tu suives la formation ou non, dans 4 ans, tu auras toujours 32 ans.
@Lush_Beauty1 the "you should know this by now" from parents who never taught you anything is a wound a lot of people carry quietly. Grace for yourself matters here. You're not behind. You're learning what nobody showed you.