@_Leyy_Leyy_ Ohh, I was thinking earlier if they get to see ur book. But anyways I wish there's a chance they'll see ur book soon. I really love ur stories!
Part 1
I saw a lot of negativity and disrespect spreading here again and in general I want to say:
I think some people genuinely need to remember where the line between being a fan and feeling entitled to another human being is.
We are all grown adults. We have our own brains, make our own decisions, and are responsible for how we choose to spend our money. Nobody forces any of us to buy concert tickets, fan benefits, albums, merchandise, flights, hotels, gifts or anything else. If you decide to spend hundreds or even thousands supporting an artist, that is your choice.
That support does not purchase ownership over them.
It does not buy unlimited attention.
It does not guarantee that your interaction will be exactly the way you imagined it.
It does not mean they owe you a certain reaction, a certain amount of eye contact, a certain smile, a certain level of excitement or some kind of personal relationship with you.
And it definitely does not give anyone the right to speak about them as though they are responsible for your financial decisions.
Saying things like โWithout people like me, how would he afford his house, his cars or take care of his family?โ is exactly where something has gone very wrong. Supporting somebody financially does not suddenly make you responsible for their life, and it certainly does not make that person indebted to you personally.
You are a supporter. You are not an owner.
And I think that distinction matters so much in fandom spaces.
It is completely valid to feel disappointed by an interaction. Maybe you travelled far. Maybe you spent a lot of money. Maybe you waited months for that moment and it did not feel the way you hoped it would. Those feelings are yours, and nobody has the right to tell you that you cannot feel them.
But disappointment still does not justify cruelty.
There is a huge difference between saying, โI personally felt disappointed by my experience,โ and turning that disappointment into harsh accusations, insults, assumptions about someoneโs character, or encouraging negativity toward them.
Especially when we are talking about events where these actors are interacting with hundreds or thousands of people.
As fans, we are standing there focused on two people. Of course we notice every glance, every movement, every little interaction because they are the reason we came.
But from their side?
They are trying to acknowledge person after person after person.
Hi-touch. Meet & greet. Autographs. Photos. Stage performances. Interviews. Fan interactions. Constant smiling, talking, posing, reacting, remembering instructions, moving from one person to the nextโand doing all of that across two packed days.
They are human beings.
They get tired. Their energy changes. They can miss someone. They can misunderstand something. One interaction might naturally feel warmer than another. They cannot physically give every single person an identical experience.
They are not robots programmed to produce the perfect fan interaction every five seconds.
And that is exactly why I think people should be extremely careful before turning one disappointing moment into a judgment about who these people are.
Because while certain negative posts have been circulating, I have also seen countless people sharing beautiful experiences from Rome. I personally experienced beautiful moments too. People came away happy, emotional, shocked by how kind they were, excited about interactions they will probably remember for years.
That does not invalidate somebody who had a disappointing experience.
But one disappointing experience does not invalidate everybody elseโs positive experience either.
Both things can exist.
What bothers me is when disappointment turns into this idea of:
โI spent money on you, therefore you should have treated me exactly how I wanted.โ
No.
That is where the boundary needs to be painfully clear.
Every time, somehow some fans are like, โWhat do you mean you spent money? You want attention? Then go to a spender event if you want attention.โ LIKE, REALLY?
If youโre going to a country where obviously most of the people attending are from that country because theyโre going there to meet the boys, what exactly do you expect? Special attention just because you spent money? Are you the only person who spent money? Are you the only one who flew from another country to meet them? Be serious.
There are literally hundreds of people there, and everyone has spent money in some way to be there. Some of these fans have flown across countries and continents just to see them because they donโt get the opportunity to meet them regularly. Meanwhile, some of you can meet them much more easily because you live closer.
So what exactly makes you more special?
And calling him getting attracted to European ladies it is why didn't give you attention is such an absurd thing to say. Like, are you hearing yourselves? You chose to go to Europe too. If you wanted a different kind of event, you could have waited for them to come to Korea or attended a spendor event yourself.
You cannot go somewhere, see hundreds of people who ALSO paid and travelled to be there, and then act like you deserve exclusive attention because you spent money. Everyone is there for the same reason. Stop acting like youโre the main character in a room full of people who made the exact same effort to meet them.
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Nothing can prepare u for these two๐ซถ๐, they are just AS WONDERFUL IRL as you see & am lost for words on having this moment with YOU BOTH๐ค
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