@cutthefinalrope My heart goes out to you, but all I can think of to offer is this picture of my cat (he's called Kater, which simply means male cat in German)
@cheeseshavings Ooh, I could offer 'Wehmut', for when you're sad something has passed but happy to have experienced it in return!
Or maybe 'Fingerspitzengefühl', which means being tactful or handling something very carefully 🤔