People will perceive to be 1 way with you. But a totally different mf with others. It’s like do as you please. But don’t come over here with the shit. Being fake pretending and lying about dumb shit. All them different versions for different people. Because you can’t be real about things and wanna control how you’re viewed. Maintaining all those disguises is weird crazy work.
detachment... is one of the most painful forms of self-respect because your heart usually isn't ready when your mind finally is. u still miss them. u still remember the good moments. u still wonder what could've been. but deep down u know love isn't supposed to leave u confused every night, questioning your worth, celebrating the bare minimum, or begging for consistency. one day u realize missing someone isn't a good enough reason to keep hurting yourself. that's when healing finally wins.
When you hurt someone and maintain a relationship with that person, they may bring it up again. They may need more clarity. Even if you have apologized, they may bring it up. And when that happens, it is on YOU to be patient and have a discussion about it. If you hurt that person, it's not up to you to tell them when and how to heal. If you are truly sorry and care about them, you gotta deal with those uncomfortable feelings about how they're still hurting over something. These are the consequences of your actions.