maybe the point isn't to become so wise and stoic that nothing ever hurts your feelings. maybe it's to become secure enough that you can feel the sting, laugh at yourself a little, learn what you need to learn, and keep your heart open anyway.
As an assertive woman, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard men tell me that they can’t wait to see the man I finally end up with or as someone said the man who finally “bends” me.