Kat Stanley

I was raised in an #openadoption. I stand for family preservation, #adoptee rights & ORIGINAL birth certificate access.

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

To glorify open adoption, or even place it one step above closed adoption, allows the #adoption industry to capitalize and continue corrupt practices.

ANY adoption severs a family.

#openadoption #adoptee #familypreservation

[Haley Radke @haleyradke]

I just can’t get this out of my head. It’s galling to me to hear an expert say that open adoption is an ethical practice.

Ethical for who exactly?

It’s 2022. I’m not calling family separation ethical.

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

Let me be real frank. Open adoption doesn’t change a damn thing. It’s still adoption. #openadoption #adoption

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

@Karen_Pickell “My mom left me with a lady who wasn’t very nice.” - Magically those ‘you’re so lucky’ adoption responses disappear. It takes the adoption blinders off people.

[Angela Barra🔊 @MareeAngeBarra]

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[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

@MaeveKelly11 @ihateadoption1 Agreed. PAPs have been using that line about “listening” and “learning” on social media for YEARS. All the while the #adoption business rolls on.

[maeve kelly @MaeveKelly11]

@neithskye who keep the adoption industry humming on the backs of helpless infants & then turn around and want to act as if they had no clue & are super interested in adoption trauma need to take a long hard look in the mirror.

[maeve kelly @MaeveKelly11]

@neithskye generations were uneducated about #adoption & there was little out there for even the most well-intentioned folks. That’s not true anymore. We are talking about #adoption. We are finding our families. We’re writing books & we’re getting laws changed to open our records. APs ...

[maeve kelly @MaeveKelly11]

@neithskye Sorry to highjack your thread, Jill. Just been really bothered lately by APs and some adoptees who act as if the lifelong trauma & loss is somehow a *surprise* to APs & not anything they knew or could have anticipated. It’s disingenuous & I’m tired of it. Sure - maybe previous ..

[maeve kelly @MaeveKelly11]

@neithskye It cracks me up that people suggest that APs of infants care about adoption-related trauma. C’mon. Get real. They paid $50k to pretend the kid is theirs. They cut this kid off from her family & changed her birth cert. They knew what they were doing & they did it for themselves.

[maeve kelly @MaeveKelly11]

@neithskye Exactly, Jill. A baby may need care. Temporarily or for longer. Let’s provide that. There’s no need to also wipe out their identity, create a fake birth certificate for them, sever them from their family tree & keep them from knowing where they come from. That’s all for APs.

[Jill Daviau 🇨🇦 😷 @neithskye]

⬇This. My (bio) mom just needed a few years of support. My (bio) dad wasn't told about me. Did I really need my *entire family* replaced & my ancestry/genealogy irrevocably deleted with a judge's signature? Adoption isn't for adoptees. It's for the adopters. #AdopteeVoice

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

For what it’s worth. #nothing #fake #birthcertificate #adoption #openadoption

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

@CCMFeltHats @MollyBloom10 @HighinGet @C_Stroop @Intrpdtravlr @ameliorate_d @Random_Neuro123 @damemagazine Thank you for sharing, @CCMFeltHats! Many look at open adoption as the fix, which it isn’t.
So entertaining to hear someone say that nothing will be solved on Twitter after many years of sharing, learning & connecting w/ adoptees here. We have a voice & have made a difference.

[Adoptee Rights Law @adopteelaw]

Found poetry. Or lost. Or gone. Not sure.

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

And if they do talk about their adopted kids online, they sure as hell better not complain when the kid grows up and returns the favor. #adoption

[Ungrateful Domestic Infant Supply @IHateAdoption1]

Do. Not. Talk. About. Your. Adopted. Child. Online.

Period. The nicknames don't change the fact that it's not your information to share.

[Ungrateful Domestic Infant Supply @IHateAdoption1]

Americans: let's stop worrying about all the "orphans" around the world. They aren't for you. Let the countries they live in sort them out.

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

@NYadoptee Yep. Started having this discussion with my daughter from a very young age.

“We don’t give away our children.”

[Kat Stanley @KatSwrites]

@MariannaNBCNews Not “getting” bad. Just getting to the point of affecting more people.
It has BEEN bad for those going without pay.