Precisely the fact that you're miserable in life means you're making people around you miserable as a side effect. That's why you're so lonely and leaking here in my DMs.
I block subs so easily. It could be anything from taking too long to respond, to not sending after I tell them, or if they're a dom masquerading as a switch.
There's no way you're going to be able to keep concealing your true identity from your wife, she's going to learn of the nasty degenerate she married soon enough.