A strong connection on a first date seems far more likely for people who already know a fair amount about each other. Without this context, it is easy to fixate on flaws. People need to lower their standards for a “successful” first date in an online dating/matchmaking world.
Almost every marriage I've made as a matchmaker almost did not happen.
There was always an objection. She lives too far, he talks too much, there was no spark in the first hour. I had to get on the phone and say "we are not telling you to marry her, just give it one more date."
People will always find a reason to say no. The couples who made it were not free of doubt. They just needed someone they trusted to say "give it another chance."
@LivingGodsTruth While a complete rejection of all modern, secular media sounds extreme, I’m not sure how we can consume it and also follow David’s example in Psalm 101:3-4. I still have my TV (for now), but I understand why some Christians won’t buy one.
@Braedenmeetsppl I think the issue here is the false dichotomy between women passively waiting on God for a husband vs pursuing career/education/hobbies/etc. Putting continued effort into the pursuit of a good thing is not considered in most of these discussions.
This is a heartfelt testimony, but the idea of "choosing life" shouldn't even exist. Why is there a choice to be made at all? How monstrous of a people are we that we speak this way about an innocent human being developing in her mother's womb.
We can thank Margaret Sanger for the existence of the demonic idea for a mother to "choose" whether or not to end her own child's life while growing inside her.
Uterrly satanic thinking that should be rejected by every Christian. We are all made in God's image.
Prioritize God, marriage, and family. That's being pro-life.
@reformedgirly_ Jesus speaks of those who make themselves eunuchs “for the sake of the kingdom of heaven” (Matt 19:12). However, very few have the gift of celibacy that would make singleness a blessing. Most of our lives are not dedicated to the Lord such that marriage would be a hindrance.
@Ligonier Why is it that so many more people appear to have this “gift” of singleness and delayed marriage? Is this because our culture has moved towards godliness?
“One excruciating problem faced by single women is caused by the unwritten rule of our society that allows men the freedom actively to pursue a marriage partner while women are considered loose if they actively pursue a prospective husband.
No biblical rule says that a woman eager to be married should be passive. There is nothing that prohibits her from actively seeking a suitable mate. On numerous occasions, I’ve had the task of counseling single women who insist at the beginning of the interview that they have no desire to be married, but simply want to work out the dimensions of the celibacy they believe God has imposed upon them.
After a few questions and answers, the scenario usually repeats itself: the young woman begins to weep and blurts out, “But I really want to get married.” When I suggest that there are wise steps that she can take to find a husband, her eyes light up in astonishment as if I had just given her permission to do the forbidden. I have broken a taboo.
Those seeking a life partner need to do certain obvious things such as going where other single people congregate. They need to be involved in activities that will bring them in close communication with other single Christians.”
- RC Sproul
@Ligonier Why is it that so many more people appear to have this “gift” of singleness and delayed marriage? Is this because our culture has moved towards godliness?
@jchaddix@KaeleyT@SiliconConley I’m a member at his church! It’s awesome 😀 There are lots of great messages on marriage on Silicon Valley Reformed Baptist church’s YouTube page for those who are interested.