I have a co-worker who never announces anything. You don’t know she applied for a promotion until she’s already in the new office. You don’t realize she bought her own place until she casually mentions “heading home to finish painting.” She doesn’t post milestones. Doesn’t crowdsource opinions. Doesn’t invite commentary.
I used to think she was secretive. That success was supposed to be shared loudly. That excitement needed an audience.
Now I see it differently.
She moves with intention. Quiet. Focused. Certain. Her plans are protected while they’re still fragile. Her joy isn’t diluted by outside noise. She lets things grow roots before she shows the world the bloom.
It isn’t secrecy. It’s discernment. It’s peace. It’s self-trust.
Sometimes the strongest people are the ones who build their lives softly, without applause, and let their results speak when they’re ready.
I don’t stay in the house to prove I’m a good girl or impress a man . I just genuinely like being home, safe, at peace , minding my business. I don’t enjoy pretending to have fun in loud rooms full of people I don’t even like that. If I step out , it’s for something meaningful.
I tend to not text back when I’m not in an ok mood. this could last from hours to days. I don’t care if you see me on social media ... I don’t want conversation.
nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. the rage you feel when you realize how much and how long you were taken advantage of. the absolute disgust you feel towards those people that mislead you. it comes in waves. sometimes you’ll feel healed and then it suddenly hits you.