You don’t need to be chosen by them. You need to meet yourself more deeply and understand why you were willing to stay attached to something that felt intense but wasn’t truly aligned with you. Low compatibility with high chemistry is one of life’s fastest lessons in self worth. Because chemistry can make you overlook the things that don’t work. It can make inconsistency feel exciting, uncertainty feel like passion and potential feel like a future. But strong feelings don’t automatically mean someone is right for you. Sometimes the person who gives you the strongest butterflies is also the person who teaches you the hardest lesson: you can deeply desire someone and still choose not to abandon yourself for them. The lesson isn’t to stop wanting love. It’s to stop confusing intensity with alignment. You don’t need them to choose you. You need to choose yourself deeply enough that chemistry is no longer enough to make you ignore incompatibility.
So many relationships start off as distractions. Someone is still trying to soothe an ego still bruised by an ex or trying to prove they’re desirable after being discarded. Nobody's trying to hear that though.
On this date September 13 in 1886, Sigmund Freud and Martha Bernays were married. Photo in the public domain. #OTD
The couple met in 1882, endured a four-year engagement with Freud in Vienna and Bernays in Hamburg, exchanging over 900 passionate letters during their separation.
Their 53-year marriage produced six children, with Martha managing the household and supporting Freud's development of psychoanalysis until his death in 1939.
I love my wife on a somewhat absurd level, completely without explanation. I'm a fan of her, an admirer of her, and I'm proud of her. I love her smile, her voice, her way, her quirks, and even the little things that probably only I notice. But above all, I love her soul.
I’m making a visual animation editor for Anime.js
Here’s a sneak peek from my @threejsconf lightning talk
Leave a comment if you’re interested in joining the beta!
The more I build, the more I realize that speed does not necessarily mean doing everything quickly.
It’s about figuring out what matters quickly. And when you do, being extremely impatient about getting it done.