@jon_d_doe Minus her body reacting negatively, she's also on social media and she sees how women talks about the pleasure they get from head. She'll most definitely fantasize about it.
@jon_d_doe No, she isn't married. She said the guy always call her on video call to know where she is. Same guy has caught her cheating before, and the punishment he gave her was to fuck her hard and mercilessly, then bath and feed her afterwards. ๐๐๐
@jon_d_doe All the married men for this community wen marry virgins and dem dey form traditional man wen nor dey give head, go dey look their wife with corner eye for bed like this๐๐๐
A quick science lesson for my people. ๐
Why do wet dreams happen?
I saw that issue a lot on the TL today, and I don't know why it's trending.
Part of it is simply biology.
The male body is constantly producing sperm. If a man goes a long time without ejaculation, the body may naturally release some of it during sleep. Think of it as the body occasionally emptying part of the storehouse to make room for new supplies.
Then there is the brain.
While you sleep, your brain is still very busy. It sorts through memories, thoughts, imaginations, emotions, things you saw yesterday, things you worried about, and sometimes turns them into a movie.
That is why some people have sexual dreams before a wet dream, while others wake up wondering what just happened. ๐
So before somebody concludes that every wet dream is a spiritual attack, or that you secretly fell in love with the person that appeared in it, remember that sometimes your body is simply following the biology manual God built into it.
A wet dream is not a sin.
The brain is running night shift.
The body is doing maintenance.
And you are there snoring peacefully, unaware of the meeting taking place. ๐
It is very easy for most of us men to come here and yap about all the things Agba teaches until its time to show workings.
Many of us are very empathetic and believe love is care and care is paying bills, so when these beggers come they start to tell you stories very pitiful and sad story of how they are on their own and nobody cares especially after knacks you will begin to feel like a super hero.
Guys from talking stage when you start to hear stories just run don't try to hit and run
This week marks International Men's Week 2026.
I started to put together this thread last week & this morning - I have all my thoughts together.
From one man to another,
From the core of my heart to yours,
From the recognition of my struggles to yours,
I share this:
One of the most important lessons I learned in life is this:
Kindness should never be used as a leash to control people. And gratitude should never require a person to surrender their dignity.
Sometimes people do something good for us and later present the bill in the form of obedience, silence, loyalty, or access they never earned.
That is not kindness. That is emotional blackmail wearing a smile.
Likewise, being grateful does not mean saying โyesโ when your conscience is saying โno.โ
You can appreciate what someone did for you and still disagree with them. You can be thankful and still set boundaries.
You can be grateful and still walk away from what is wrong.
A favor is a gift, not a lifetime contract.
And gratitude loses its beauty the moment it becomes a tool of control.
Yes, should mean yes, and no, no.
Have a great week by people. ๐
@jon_d_doe Some people wen dey talk say the man na psycho dey do worse for bedroom oh. Sex has no rules, as long as there's consent, do you. What you see as ewww is someone's fantasy, and your fantasy is someone's ewwww. Just do you.
Married for more than a decade now.
I have never thought of that question before.
Have we quarreled? Yes. But how we manage the quarrel was a different thing. I am using the word "was" here because we rarely do nowadays.
Having conflict resolution skills is very important in marriage.
The first few years were used to be totally truthful and transparent. It is the only way we know how to grow.
โOne thing for sure is, I have enjoyed this marriage with my wife.
โBut for the young guys out there, getting here is not luck.
You have to be smart about who you pick.
โAnybody can fake it for the first few months.
The oldest trick is just acting exactly how you want them to act, just to pull you in.
They will hide the crazy until they think you are locked in.
โSo take your time. Tell her "no" and see what happens.
Watch her when she is mad or stressed out.
That is when you see who she really is.
โWatch what happens when she makes a mistake.
If you point it out and she starts crying, flips it around, or blames you, walk away.
If she can't just say "I was wrong," she will make your life a nightmare. She will make miserable look like child's play.
โLook at how she handles money. Is she trying to live like she's rich and expecting you to pay for it? Don't let her spend all your cash just to show off.
โListen to how she talks about her past. If every ex or old friend she has is "toxic" and she was always the victim, guess what? She is the problem. Soon enough, you'll be the next bad guy in her story.
Ohhh, and watch how she is with family. Watch how she acts when things go wrong, and how she treats them when she is angry.
Because sooner or later, if you marry her, you will be her family.
The signs are always there... people just let emotions cloud their judgment.
โLooks don't mean much if she has a bad character.
Keep your eyes open, take things slow, and don't ignore the warning signs just because she is pretty.
Iโve always been of the opinion that women cheat a lot too, in fact as much as men (if not more) but the reason they donโt get caught is because they clean up well!!!
Menโs cheating is always on the limelight because their ego will protect them so they can be careless about it and that is why men always get caught
But women! They know what is at stake so they will definitely chop and clean mouth and that is why you only see few cases
Itโs because of the โfeministโ shenanigans that is making more cases of women cheating coming out to the open now, itโs always been there!