Kule Ambrose Craig

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[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

Your father says, “Build here. This is your land.”

So you spend UGX 200m building your dream home.

Then he dies.

Your siblings say, “That land belongs to all of us.”

Now you have a house and a land dispute.

Did you build your future or your problem? https://t.co/K7mC8XJctY

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@Shalomheavens22 Because weakness changes how you’re treated. Even in the animal kingdom, an injured animal knows better than to advertise the wound.”

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@SolomonSerwanjj @GoodForestsUg This is the kind of leadership we should celebrate more. No big office. No grand title. Just an LC1 chairman looking at his community and asking, “What can we do to make this place better?” That's how serious impact begins. 👏🏽🌱

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@SpireJim “The day a science discussion can pull the same numbers as a celebrity scandal is the day advertisers will suddenly discover that science is profitable. Until then, we're asking capitalism to subsidise our intellectual preferences.”

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@Ntalebrian22 We need a clean Uganda, yes. But must the government turn every civic responsibility into a criminal offence?

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@AndreDeNation A clean Uganda is a good idea. A government deciding that sleeping at the wrong time deserves four months of forced community service That’s where the plot thickens

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@AndreDeNation At what point did ‘keeping Uganda clean’ become a criminal law issue? Must everything come with a penalty? 😂”

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@bruno_KUg Technically, you haven’t offered anyone 1M. You’ve just opened a brainstorming session with imaginary money. 😂

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

You know what makes a strong comeback?

Addressing what someone did.

Not reminding them of the worst things that ever happened to them.

Because once you start using someone's grief, family history and personal struggles to win an argument, you've stopped arguing with the person.

You're attacking their wounds.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

Imagine someone losing a parent.

Imagine someone losing a child.

Imagine someone struggling financially for years.

Now imagine waiting until you're angry with that person and using all those things as evidence that God or karma is dealing with them.

That's not ordinary criticism anymore.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ You don't have to be friends with someone.

You don't have to forgive them.

You don't even have to like them.

But sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is realise:

“I can hurt this person here, but I don't need to.”

That's restraint.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ Maybe that's what “Roho” should really make us think about.

Not only their Roho.

Ours too.

Because before we ask someone else to examine their heart, perhaps we should ask ourselves what kind of heart enjoys turning another person's deepest pain into a public weapon.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ You can win an argument and still lose the moral argument.

And sometimes the line between “I am calling you out” and “I am deliberately hurting you” is much thinner than we think.

Some things are simply below the belt.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

Then:

“Too much Karma coming for you.”

Now the misfortunes aren't just being mentioned.

They're being presented almost as deserved consequences.

That's what makes the post uncomfortable.

There is a huge difference between saying:

“Your behaviour is wrong.”

and saying:

“Look at all the bad things happening to you. Maybe you deserve them.”

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ “Revise your Roho.”

In this context, I don't read “Roho” as simply “spirit.”

It sounds more like:

“Check your heart. Check your character. Maybe your own behaviour is the reason these things are happening to you.”

That's a very heavy insinuation.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ And then comes the interesting part:

“You keep losing.”

This changes the entire tone.

Because now the suggestion seems to be that the person's misfortunes are evidence of something wrong with them.

That's where the post becomes much darker.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ Then there is “you are an orphan.”

Being an orphan isn't a character flaw.

It isn't evidence that someone is a bad person.

It isn't something they achieved.

So what exactly are we trying to prove by using someone's orphanhood as an insult?

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ Let's start with “lost a child.”

Whatever the circumstances, losing a child is not something you throw into someone's face because you're angry with them.

You can attack someone's argument.

You can call out their hypocrisy.

But someone's deepest pain?

Why go there?

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ Look at the words used:

“Orphan.”

“Lost a child.”

“Keep losing.”

“Still mediocre.”

“Not even a small means of transport.”

Then:

“Revise your Roho.”

That's a lot.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@rolandkid_ There are insults, there are harsh words, and then there are things you simply don't bring into a public fight.

I read this post and one thing stood out to me:

It wasn't just an attack. It was an attack using someone's pain as ammunition.

[Kule Ambrose Craig @KinCounselUG]

@AutoTrendzUg Ugandans need to embrace electric cars, Hybrids or PHevs.