"You are beautiful, even with your scars. You are strong, even with your tears. You are worthy, even with your pain. You are loved, even with your past. You are enough, just as you are.” ~Kearsen Danielle
Did you have an absent or emotionally unavailable father? Check out my latest article on the #fatherwound
How the Father Wound Shapes Adult Life | Psychreg
#psychology#innerchildhealing
"We always assume there will be another conversation, another visit, another 'see you soon.' But life doesn't promise us that. So make your last words gentle, your hugs meaningful, and your goodbyes full of love."
"Things I consider rich now: A relationship that feels safe. Friends who genuinely celebrate you. A body you take care of. Money without sacrificing your peace to earn it. Slow mornings. Excitement about your future. Having nothing left to prove.” ~Unknown
Many people mistake intensity for love because early experiences and cultural stories teach the nervous system to equate activation with connection. Healing #attachment patterns that don't serve us is difficult, life-altering work. #relationships
"Avoidance is incompatible with intimacy. You cannot dodge conflict, dodge vulnerability, dodge hard conversations, and also have a close, trusting relationship. The two things cannot coexist.” @toddbaratz
Narcissists thrive on creating a stressful environment because it keeps others off balance and easier to control. The constant unpredictability, criticism, or manufactured conflict puts people into a state of hypervigilance—always waiting for the next blow-up, silent treatment, or guilt trip.
That stress isn’t an accident; it’s part of their strategy. By keeping you emotionally drained and distracted, they make it harder for you to think clearly, set boundaries, or recognize the manipulation for what it is.
@tinybuddha Don't have a person who you feel safe with? Just removing ourselves from an environment that includes a person who makes us feel unsafe can get us half way there.
Start extending yourself compassion & care now. Don't wait. Your trauma conditioning will have you waiting forever to "feel like it." Don't get in your head about how "unnatural" it feels. Just pick one, teeny, tiny, self compassionate act of self care, here, now. Start.
@heavensbvnny The longer it lasts, the harder it is to shake the conditioning that is now rooted in our nervous system. We're not making choices; they are reflexes. It's challenging to unlearn, but can be done, if we give ourselves the kindness we expect from others throughout the process.
@heavensbvnny The longer it lasts, the harder it is to shake the conditioning that is now rooted in our nervous system. We're not making choices; they are reflexes. It's challenging to unlearn, but can be done, if we give ourselves the kindness we expect from others throughout the process.
My therapist told me, “When a woman grows up feeling unseen, she learns to love by overgiving. She pours into everyone else, hoping that one day someone will finally pour back into her. She becomes the caretaker, the fixer, the one who shows up even when no one shows up for her. And the hardest part? Deep down, she’s not trying to be strong. She’s just waiting for someone to do for her what she’s spent her whole life doing for everyone else.”
Don't let the fact that your journal was weaponized against you once upon a time keep you from using journaling as a tool in your trauma recovery now. "They" shouldn't get to decide what tools you do & don't have access to (&, not for nothing, journaling is a core recovery tool).