Some ARMY: lachimolala, Niagara pogpo, Jimin you've got no jams are cringe, we should forget those
BTS : Summoned by the mere mention of these words in their vicinity
it’s been around a week now and i usually don’t talk about things like this or bring this kind of stuff onto my account. but honestly, it’s gotten to a point where i’m starting to get tired of seeing it all over my timeline and trying to ignore it every time.
i’ve stayed quiet because i genuinely don’t have the energy to argue over this. if you’re disappointed, that is okay. if what happened changed the way you see someone, that is okay too. i am able to understand why some people reacted the way they did, even if i don’t personally feel the same way.
you are allowed to decide that something changed the way you see someone. i’m not going to tell anyone what they are or aren’t allowed to feel because it is not my place to do so, and neither is it anyone's.
but somewhere along the way, disappointment turned into something else entirely. what i don’t understand is how quickly it all has turned into this absolute hatred toward namjoon specifically. watching people who have spent years loving his music and talking about how much he has meant to them suddenly call him names and speak about him with so much contempt is honestly insane to me.
you can disagree with someone without deciding that everything they have ever said was fake. you can be disappointed without turning a person you’ve loved for years into a villain overnight. you can acknowledge that someone made a decision you don’t agree with while still remembering that they’re a human being whose entire life and personality cannot possibly be contained in one decision. especially someone you don't even know personally.
and with namjoon, some have spent years watching him grow, question himself, change, learn, make mistakes, create, reflect and constantly try to understand the world around him. we’ve heard him talk about his insecurities, his doubts, his relationship with fame, responsibility, art, music and overall the weight of being the person he is. we’ve watched him put so much of himself into the things he creates and shares with us that he never actually owed us in the first place.
those are actually one of the many things i’ve always admired about him. he has never seemed interested in presenting himself as some perfect person with all the answers. if anything, so much of his work comes from learning and trying to make sense of things.
and now i see people acting as though they have the complete picture of who he really is.
people are complicated. circumstances are complicated. growing up, different cultures, different generations and different experiences all shape how someone sees the world. not everything can be reduced to good person vs bad person, right vs wrong, or just "this proves everything about them." life is simply much more gray than just black and white.
he doesn’t stop being kim namjoon because the internet is angry with him. he doesn’t become a different person because people decided they no longer want to see him the way they did. and so many years of his life and the things he has shared with us don’t suddenly disappear because people are disappointed.
because behind all of it, he is still a person who is allowed to be imperfect. allowed to make decisions you wouldn’t make, allowed to have perspectives you don’t share and allowed to exist outside of what you expect from him.
you don’t have to forgive him. you don’t have to agree with him. you don’t even have to keep being his fan.
but you also don’t have to destroy him to prove that you’re disappointed.
i just hope that somewhere beneath all the noise he can always remember that there are still people who see him as a whole person and people who don’t expect him to be perfect, because no one could ever be.
i will always leave room for nuance. i will always leave room for things i don’t know. and most importantly, i will always remember that there is a human being behind all of this.
🐱: It's an era where people are so conscious of what others think, say, and judge, and are overflowing with that information
🐱: I hope that you discard those things, and focus on yourself, focus on the person you are
🐱: That's what I speak a lot about. The person you should know the best is yourself. One should know themselves the most
I think you're definitely allowed to set boundaries, especially when it concerns physically touching your kids but maybe start with some sort of verbal response instead of smacking down the septuagenarian?
Y NO este post no los justifica porque la CAGARON enormemente pero no por eso voy a apoyar el odio masivo y dejarlos de seguir porque eso ya es excusa para demostrar el odio que les han tenido desde hace AÑOS y justo a ellos dos.
El odio masivo que están viviendo es solo porque son ellos dos y no hablo de los post donde los cuestionan de manera respetuosa y desde el amor sino de los que les desean el mal y dicen que ellos son igual que cb.
Y si quieres dejarlos de apoyar hazlo, nadie te quiere en nuestro espacio, pero ten los ovarios de así como lo dices de verdad dejar de consumir todo el contenido de ellos porque les recuerdo que el contenido grupal es por ellos también, tampoco salgan con "voy a dejar de consumir su música en solitario :(" por favor, como si desde que debutaron no lo hubieran hecho, tengan un poco de vergüenza.
I get shouted at all the time, just for asking questions both at work and home. I tolerate it because its not as bad as the anxiety that comes if i don't get the info. My colleagues would literally send me to ask my boss questions because she used to snap everyone's head off.
In case some of you are wondering why mental health is stigmatized in sg, it's because of people like this. Hoarding disorder is a recognised mental health condition btw. The lack of empathy is just insane.
This is honestly becoming a pandemic of perverts, getting worse each passing day. But sg is safe they say. Only a few isolated cases they say. How bad does it have to get, how many cases must pile up before we admit it's a problem?
i'm a firm believer of the public forum(s) being a necessary space for contestation and deliberation, even for things such as decades-old plans for National development, the latter of which should never be assumed to be set in stone, even if historically planned for valid reason.
I want the kind of love where we’re both quietly in awe of each other. Where I catch myself thinking, “How are you even real?” How does someone walk through the world with a heart like yours, a mind like yours, an energy that feels so rare?
The kind of connection that feels impossible until it happens to you. Like somehow, against all odds, we found the love people spend lifetimes writing poetry about.