Breakups hurt, yeah. But you know what hurts even more? Staying. Staying and trying to “make it work” with someone who has shown you over and over that they don’t value you, don’t prioritize you, and don’t care about your feelings. Begging for bare minimum. Hoping they’ll change. Ignoring the proof right in front of you. That kind of pain drags out way longer than a breakup ever could. Sometimes the real heartbreak isn’t losing them it’s realizing you stayed too long trying to convince someone to love you the right way. THAT’S what really hurts.
Clarifying things so the other person doesn't overthink is also a form of emotional responsibility. Reassurance is a love language that doesn't get talked about enough.
i do not ever want a nigga to settle for me. get yo dream bitch & if you can't, don't bother me. i want a nigga that got the biggest crush on me lie prayed for me & didn't ever dm none of my homegirls.
things I've learned don't mean anything:
-sleeping together
-meeting their family
-no protection
-talking about the future
- calling for hours
-"I love you"
I don’t separate love from how I’m treated. If I constantly feel neglected, dismissed or unsupported, the love dies naturally. Bc in my mind real love naturally produces intentional behavior.
I’ll never understand how somebody can say they “love you” while actively making your life harder💔Like you knew I was already mentally exhausted, stressed, fighting silent battles…&instead of protecting my heart, you added MORE pain to it. That type of betrayal change you fr.