How long people are married says nothing about the health of the marriage.
People who can’t stand to be in the same room spend decades together.
Some live double lives.
Some couples haven’t had a real conversation in 25 years.
Don’t idealize longevity.
Idealize relationships where you see mutual respect, admiration, and underneath it all: true friendship.
People are not logical about anything.
Letting go of that expectation decreases frustration and better allows you to meet people where they with love instead of judgement.