Men, as the leader of your relationship, it is your responsibility to stay in control of your emotions and navigate through the emotional storms that arise from your woman.
When navigating her emotional storms, do not use facts or logic to try and โwinโ the battle. Instead, use emotional intelligence to validate her feelings and make her feel comfortable with trusting you as her lighthouse when she is feeling an emotional storm.
If you use anger or invalidate her feelings with facts and logic, her storm will get stronger and your masculine lighthouse will lose its ability to be seen, resulting in both you and her suffering as a consequence.
Most men donโt know how to close.
They struggle to get a womanโs number, let alone ask her out on a date.
But at its core, closing is as simple as asking for what you want.
The hard part is knowing when to ask...
There's no need for fancy pickup lines or gimmicks.
Men of Systems use the Decision Bucket to know when to close.
Itโs a simple model that helps you identify if she will say yes.
In sales, people decide to buy a product or service when they have a problem that bothers them enough to solve it.
The same concept applies to dating.
When the pain of losing you is high enough, she will make a decision.
This pain of losing you is correlated to the amount of emotional relevance and connection that exists between you two.
Emotional relevance is how important you are to each other.
Connection is the chemistry, goals, values, mindsets, and perspectives you share.
With enough of these two elements, she is more likely to say yes.
Keep in mind, emotional relevance and connection donโt last forever.
They diminish over time, like water flowing out of a leaky bucket.
This means that you don't just flirt once or make one kind gesture and she's all yours.
Keep filling the bucket.
"It's a stupid to ask, 'What does a woman bring to the table?'
She is not a table, she is soil.
And you are a seed.
Whatever seed is placed in the soil is incubated and multiplied.
You give her groceries and she gives you a meal.
You give her a house and she makes it a home.
You give her your seed and she gives you a child.
You give her frustration and she gives you hell.
Let him lead you through life.
Your role is to...
Cook with love
Bear his children
Smile sincerely
Flow with ease
Be patient and kind
Wake up womanly, soft, and present