@meowingabyss It was not traumatic at all and actually probably was very good for us, from a developing independence and responsibility standpoint. We had to pitch in babysitting other times here and there too but didn't usually get paid for that. It was just considered pitching in. Nbd
@meowingabyss Which meant cooking meals and making sure everyone's chores got done. It also meant putting our youngest sibling down for naps and playing with her throughout the day. I.e. reading with her, taking her outside, doing art projects etc. we got paid $5 for the day.
@ViolaGreenwood@IdeasAndReality@IonaItalia Yeah it's weird. Your last sentence really nails it. Would be curious to read the whole thing bc that paragraph doesn't track with most of the nurses I know at all
@IdeasAndReality@IonaItalia Some things are are easier seen at a distance. Nurses don't get the luxury of distance or superiority...and I am mildly curious if this doctor ever takes a second to wonder at the truths he remains blind to
@tarafaul503 Are your kids interested in art as a pursuit? Whether it be photography or whatever? I'm always curious about the nature/nurture divide as it pertains to art
@abigailsolutely@LizWolfeReason Maybe so! I guess I understood Liz to be talking about how some spaces eventually do become less kid friendly as the night goes on. Maybe I misunderstood her point! But I agree with you, largely, I think! I would like more kids in more public spaces
@abigailsolutely@LizWolfeReason And adults don't have to "tolerate" that shift in the same way that tolerance is required when a kid has a mini meltdown at Chili's. Equating tolerating other adults' rowdiness to tolerating kids' rowdiness just doesn't really work. They're usually (hopefully) very different!
@abigailsolutely@LizWolfeReason If you've got your kid at, for example, an outdoor beer garden that serves food and you guys are still there past a certain time of night, your kids may overhear curse words and adult convos. Thats what I mean when I say that at a certain point, its a space for adults now
@abigailsolutely@LizWolfeReason She's making the (correct) distinction that much of the animus against children in restaurants stems from the very poor etiquette of a small portion of parents that let their children disrupt the dining experience of the people around them to an unacceptable degree
@abigailsolutely@LizWolfeReason If you're at a bar/restaurant past 8 ish, thats not family time. At some point, adults should be able to be in adult spaces without having to cede the atmosphere to children. I'm very pro kids in restaurants but poorly behaved kids are more frequently disruptive than adults imo
@katrosenfield If you didn't personally encounter certain things or people, there would be no way for you know about the goings on that might actually be useful to you. While much of the chatter feels aimless, your brain would just filter out the info you didn't need
@katrosenfield Yes, partly this. I also think it might be a community strengthening thing developed from pre-internet society. How else would you know that johnny broke his leg and won't be taking on any new jobs for a while? Or that the grocery store in the neighborhood changed its hours?
@bradluttrell@UPMAdvice I have that issue with him too! ZB is also like that for me. When a song breaks through the rest or I hear it out of context of the records I usually have positive feelings on it. But I struggle w/differentiating the songs from each other then, boom, there's another record out
@Romy_Holland You seem reasonable, so probably! If it's any consolation, the "grin & bear it" method feels better after the fact than it does leading up to it. But it's still a hard adjustment. There's nothing wrong with feeling that acutely and acknowledging those feelings as they pass thru
@Romy_Holland And the feeling burned out part only exacerbates all of that. Things don't slide off your back the same way when you're run down. I hope your trip is the reprieve and reset you've been looking forward to!!
@Romy_Holland Ah this makes a ton of sense to me! I'm sympathetic to the dynamic you're describing bc it's not even really the having to share as much as it is having your expectations for the trip upended after you'd had time to envision something more you/your husband centric