Remember when Grootman’s EX friend confessed the things he used to do to his first baby mama? He called him a woman abuser. It makes sense why he’s mentioning GBV
You aren't the ideal woman for him to settle down with. He just likes the sexual benefits & how easily accessible you are. He'll occasionally hint that you're the one,& you'll keep giving him a chance despite cos of hope. Men are intentional about who they love & insincere to women they disregard.
It’s okay to feel the way I feel
It’s okay to put yourself first
Some decisions come across as selfish but you’re not, you’re taking care of yourself
Opening up does help
It’s okay to cry
Using “I” statements when talking to someone about how they make you feel, is a psychological tactic so they don’t get defensive.
Example : “I feel really sad and disrespected when you raise your voice.” Instead of “you make me feel…”
Take ownership of your own feelings.
Be a good person without expectation for reciprocation.
Being vulnerable is a strength
Nobody owes me anything
Radical transparency and self awareness are *key* to healthy relationships. If ur incapable of communicating feelings ur incapable of maintaining a relationship 🎯