Why does Black people saying they will shop at Black on businesses trigger people? Why are Black people called racist when they shop with their own people?
Cyrus Carmack belton case opened the eyes of many Black people
I’ve always wondered why majority of the people I’ve met in my adult life have been avoidant women, couldn’t quite pin point what was attracting them to me but the moment I realized, everything changed
I realized why I kept attracting them is cos I gave without asking for anything in return. I meet someone and once I feel a little chemistry, I switch to caretaker mode, I validate them, listen to them, go out of my way to be there for them, create safety for them to open up and they do
But I do this not minding if they’re doing same for me, and honestly that’s one of the fastest ways to build exhaustion and resentment. If you keep giving, hoping they’ll give back, you’re wasting your time. Nobody recieved free money and goes “oh maybe I need to give him too” when the giver hasn’t asked for any
I’m now realizing I should have matched energy, I should have paced my emotional investment, should have given and waited to be given back cos that’s what a relationship is, reciprocal not one sided.
If you’re reading this and you can relate, stop abandoning yourself. You deserve to be listened to as well, you deserve to be validated, you deserve to have your needs met, don’t let yourself go without reciprocation. A healthy relationship is one where both people strive to be emotionally responsible for each other not one partner being responsible while feeling exploited
Being a horny girl in a misogynistic world is so annoying I just want to fuck but he’s there thinking he’s conquering me in his mind and it’s such a put off like
They’re trying to jump my girl but she is correct. Say Her Name was created for Black women precisely because when BW get murdered by the state their names& stories are not known. The WW murdered yesterday is getting international coverage because she’s yt.