Take your time getting to know people. Don’t be so excited to connect. People have so much hidden intentions, hidden toxicity, hidden personality traits! They will do everything to impress you before showing themselves. Say NO sometimes. Protect your mental health.
This is a sign to leave our super-understanding era because sometimes people just take advantage of the kindness that we are giving. I'm so done with being okay with what they are doing and feeling sorry for myself afterward.
Usually, people who have the biggest hearts & purest intentions are the ones who experienced the worst treatment from others. they know & understand the feeling of being rejected, betrayed, alone, left behind, all the painful treatment from other people.
How do y'all be expecting a relationship to work when you're not affectionate, not romantic, not flirtatious (Being lustful and oversexual is not the type of flirtation I am talking about), not empathetic, and not spontaneous lol?
Some of y'all are equivalent to a rock.
Adulting advice? Use your long weekend to go out and treat yourself. Learn how to make yourself enough for you without needing someone by your side. Make yourself your one & only partner that no matter what will always be there for you. Live your life and take a lot of pictures.
Nobody wants to put effort into relationships anymore. A text is too much, planning a date is too much, talking on the phone is exhausting . Then we act surprised when connections don't last. 😴
Normalize not forcing your importance in someone's life. Let people do what they want so you can see what they'd rather do. If someone doesn't see the value in having you by their side, don’t try to convince them.