I love that we are all speaking up, supporting each other & owning what happened. Sure we're confused & baffled by the actions we witnessed from someone we really cared about. But we won't play dead either. #narcissist#psychologicalabuse#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou
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physical catering- of course , if he attempts to do what she does- he does an about face; suddenly he declares that parenting and housekeeping are monumental and admirable tasks requiring hours a day of rest
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Physical caretaking- interwoven with the abuser's overvaluation of his own work is the devaluation of his partner's labor. " I don't know what the hell she does all day.."
Physical caretaking- Few abusers look me in the eye and say " I expect a warm tasty dinner when I come home" but they still may explode if it isn't there.
Physical caretaking-He expects his partner to make dinner for him the way he likes it, look after the kids, clean the house and perform an endlessly continuing list of additional tasks. He sees her essentially as an unpaid servant.
Entitlement is the abuser's belief that he has a special status and that it provides him with exclusive rights and privileges that do not apply to his partner